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To accept the job?

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vroomvroom1 · 19/08/2024 19:52

I've been trying to find a job for 9 months since being made redundant and have been freelancing with a top up from benefits. Things have been tight with little room for extras. I have a DS10 who is with me during the week and half the weekends/holidays.

I've been offered a great job in the city (london), it's paying £70k a year however, the working hours are 8.30am - 5.30pm and it's five days in the office. There's absolutely no budge on this. 84/ a great opportunity for me and will mean extra money to save/invest and afford holidays and a generally much better standard of living, however, I'm worried on the impact on my DS. I'd have to leave home at 7.30am and won't be back until 6.30pm.

He is now at the age where he can get himself ready for school, make breakfast and noodles, toast etc and can go to school and back by himself - or use the breakfast and afterschool club - although he hates going and would rather be home. Is this too many hours to leave him alone every weekday? I'm getting serious mum guilt but on the other hand, know our financial situation would drastically improve which he would feel the benefits of. There's no chance of him going to his dad's during the week, although on Fridays his dad collects him when it's his weekend with him.

Realistically I don't know when another opportunity like this or even close to it will come up.

Thoughts?

OP posts:
Sethera · 19/08/2024 19:54

It sounds like an amazing opportunity, and an hour's commute each way could be much, much worse; I say go for it.

JennyForeigner · 19/08/2024 19:57

I'm really sorry, this is a tough call. Take it, knowing it is temporary. You will find your search much easier for being back in the game. Be as open with your son as you can be and start looking again straightaway - an employer who offers no flex at all is going to pay a price in terms of not retaining people long-term.

FawnFrenchieMum · 19/08/2024 19:57

Sounds like a standard working week. I’d possibly see if there was an after school club one night to break up the four nights but overall it’s fine. He’ll be going to secondary school next year and will be out longer himself.

DisforDarkChocolate · 19/08/2024 19:57

I think you need to take the job. Think laterally about childcare. Is there another parent who would check up on him on their way to school? Before you know it he'll be a lot more independence and you'll have more job options when you've been in work a couple of years.

Lmnop22 · 19/08/2024 20:12

Take it and immediately use the fact you have this amazing position to look for a lateral move somewhere that offers more flexibility or working from home opportunities

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