To think it was incredibly shitty of my sister to tell my neighbours and others I was in rehab?

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Don't get me wrong, loud and proud 10 months sober here! But why would you do that? To undermine my attempt? She said "she was terribly upset", sent me two shitty messages when I was there, and smirked and asked if I'd "made friends for life" when I got home. She's a hypnotherapist.

Well tell her making new friends is next on your To Do list. Is she envious of your strength and determination op?

She sounds like a cow. Just ignore her and focus on your recovery.

No idea why she did that but wanted to post to say well done. Your strength should be applauded.

Wow, that is hugely unsupportive and a breach of your confidence.

I'd never tell her anything again and would avoid spending time with her at all. I'd also make it clear to other family members that you were very disappointed by her actions and did not want them passing any of your news on to her in the future.

Your sister is a complete bitch. And just because you are related, does not mean you have to have contact with her.

You could ask her to hypnotise herself into being a decent human being , but does she have the skill ?

You should be proud ! Well done on achieving , and your continuing, sobriety !

She may like the " drama" or tittle tattle of you being in hospital. With the neighbours she has "an audience " for her drama about you. Next time if necessary take the wind out of her sails and inform them first and then neighbours will hear it from you so less dramatic effect. Wish u well.

Well done OP!!!

'No, but I did learn how to identify toxic people and remove them from my life...' and then walk away.

Smirk optional.

This. Dont let her job and your rehab define who is the crap person here. She needs to do better, you need to reduce contact. Well done on 10mths!

You made steps to sort your life out and that you should be very proud of and that should have remained private and only yours to tell others if you wanted to
Your sister was telling people about your rehab stint to try and bring you down.
It's obvious who is the better person and she will know that.
Well done op on the sobriety front .

Cut the contact of a gossiping sister who tried to shame you. Well done on 10k, that’s nearly a whole year.

It sounds like she's being very unkind.

If you come from a dysfunctional family, maybe that has fed into your addiction issues. Maybe she feels threatened by you trying to better yourself.

Otoh if you have been an addict, it can impact family hugely and maybe she's bitter about that. Trying to get better doesn't erase whatever behaviours were there in the depths of addiction.

Only you know the background to all this and the personalities involved. I would try to think objectively about your family's role in this and your own. Maybe there's something to salvage with your sister, maybe not.

Good luck in your recovery and well done for getting to this point.

It depends on if she told to gossip (not acceptable) or if she has been struggling with it and needed some support. If she has been helping you then she might have just needed to offload. Whilst it is about you she should be able to share information relating to things she is going through.

Has the neighbour been effected by your behaviour at all? If so, maybe he your sister told to defend you/ show you were trying to get better.

@bevm72yellow how do you find a thread over 6 months old that the original op never came back to?

@Itsagreatdaytosavelives thanks never realised it was an old one.. time to stop watching.