My sister tried commiting suicide

[Ilovepugs2017]

Just had a phonecall off my dad. She is with my parents now… luckily my nephew found her.

Just wondering what we can do to get her the support she needs? 😭

sorry I know it’s not AIBU related just needed some advice 😢

Am so sorry to hear this. And even more sorry I don't know how to help but looked thus up.https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/helping-someone-else/supporting-someone-after-a-suicide-attempt/
The bit about a safety plan sounds very useful too.
You can also call the Samaritans
Hugs from this stranger

I'm sorry to hear that @Ilovepugs2017 . My brother killed himself so I truly empathize. Without knowing anything about your sister, it's hard to say. Does she have substance abuse issues, mental health issues, are her problems situational?

Oh you poor thing. I'm going through the same thing with my mum and have in the past with my little sister.

Is there something affecting it, like alcohol or drug abuse?

I understand the helpless feeling, and all you can do is take it step by step. Feel free to DM x

The Mind link was good. Your Nephew will need support as well. You all need to have conversations without her being privy to them, to gage if you are all in agreement about help from services etc. It's ultimately her choice, but you all need listening ears and to sort out any conflict away from her.

She should see her doctor so that any mental health issues, such as depression, can be treated.

I am so sorry. She has to see a psychiatrist to be evaluated and treated for possible depression or other MH problems.
Above all, give her your unwavering support and take it seriously. Don't let anybody get away with saying dismissive things like "she just did it for attention" and other rot of that sort. Unfortunately, that does happen and not infrequently either. People can be incredibly cruel.

She does suffer with mental health problems …. Anxiety and depression. However she’s been through a lot lately with an abusive controlling partner. She ended the relationship a while ago after he hit her and the police were involved.

She’s been trying to move on with her life but yes does unfortunately drink alcohol a lot which is not helping things. A few days ago her ex partner seen her while she was out with a friend and started shouting abuse at her in a pub so he got told by security to get out. He waited for her to walk home and jumped out on her and beat her up….. all caught on a neighbours cctv.

I feel so sorry for her, I’ve sent my parents the number for our local crisis team as I won’t be home til later today (over 200 miles away from them as on holiday with my DH and kids).

Did she get hospital treatment? If she did she would have been assessed by a mental health practitioner, they should put some support in place but sadly this doesn’t always happen.

Follow up appointment with the GP is good, talk to her about what happened and how she feels about it now. Mind have some good safety plan templates if she is worried that she might try again.

Your nephew may well need ongoing support himself, either through GP or education (if he’s still in education).

She is fortunate to have people who care. I hope you’re OK

OP I would also be concerned about her children.

You said her son found her? that must have been really traumatic for him and he is going to need psychological support too.

Hi OP

Has the attack on her been reported to the Police? I’d be strongly encouraging her to do so if it hasn’t been. Looks like she needs a non-molestation order in place very quickly. The Police can refer her to a charity that will complete all the paperwork for free and there is no fee to apply to the Court.
If she turns up in person at the Court they must hear her application that day.
This would be my number 1 job.
I fear the Ex is a strong contributing factor here.

Did she attend hospital? Plus what age is your nephew because if he is a child then social services need to know. She needs to report to the police, its a little unclear but you are very obviously upset so understandable as to what has happened officially, who knows basically.

She went to hospital to get her face checked ….

The police are involved and have him remanded. He has pleaded guilty to 4 counts and will be going to court in September.

She had already had a restraining order against him and he’s broken his bail conditions.

My nephew is 16 so not young young but still would be traumatic for him. My niece was staying at my brothers overnight so she wasn’t there at the time.

It is a big shock and I felt awful last night as she was upset on the phone to me saying she done something stupid and she needed me. Was upsetting hearing her say that and being over a 6 hr drive away

That's awful about the assault by her ex. The main problem is deal with the ex and trying to make sure she feels safe. Easier said than done I know with an abusive controlling ex who is continuing to assault her and control her. Has he been arrested? Obviously this needs to be taken very seriously by the police and her family needs to support her in making sure he's put in jail.

Therapy, medication and other interventions are nice but if she has an ex stalking and assaulting her she's never going to feel safe. Does she have PTSD?

Sorry cross posted @Ilovepugs2017 . It sounds like she's in a terrible situation that has been just getting worse. No wonder she feels helpless, hopeless and is self medicating.

Hi OP, how is your sister?

Hey. She’s doing a lot better now thank you for asking x

What happened at the court case to her ex partner?

I am sending hugs to you, your sister and your family. I hope your sister gets the care needed to handle the situation. Take care of yourself as well as it is difficult for you..