To feel hurt?

[GreenJeans6]

I was seeing someone for a while and things seemed to be going well. He very occasionally met up with a female friend just them two but he did tell me about it. They’d sometimes go out for lunch or something as a catch up. All of a sudden he started ghosting me without any reason, just read my message one day the other week and never spoke to me again since.

earlier on he put a post on instagram stories saying ‘date night’ and then I just saw another he’s put on and it’s a selfie of him and that same female friend in with his arm around her and he’s tagged her. AIBU to feel hurt?

You've been dumped. YANBU to feel hurt that he didn't take the trouble to tell you.

Well firstly it’s a bit silly that you’re still following him on social media when it’s over and he’s ghosted you. If you’d blocked him you wouldn’t see this stuff.

But no you’re not unreasonable to feel upset. It’s like he was cheating on you or dumped you for her, after having told you she’s just a friend. Block him now though, you don’t need to see any more.

YANBU at all for feeling hurt over the ghosting. It is such shitty, cowardly behaviour.
The 'date night' could still be a friendly thing, but who the fuck cares at this point. The damage is already done.

You were probably the other woman and now he’s binned you because maybe his gf, (the friend) was getting suspicious. Just block him and move on. He’s clearly not a good guy either way.

Blessings sometimes come in disguise.

Block him.

But there doesn’t appear to be any causal relationship between his friendship and him unceremoniously dumping you…? I mean, obviously you’re hurt by him dumping you without even a word, but I’ve had the same close male friends throughout various short-lived and linger-lived relationships, and they don’t have anything to do with each other…

YANBU to feel hurt. However, consider it a blessing in the long run. He is an utter piece of dog toffee and a coward.

No matter who was first one he was dating, A bastard either way.

Consider getting checked for STIs though because God knows where he has been.

Probably best to take the high road and leave them to it because he'll probably do it to her too in the near future anyway.