Do I rehome

[MrsCarterS112]

I have a 2 and a 1 year pup. The 1 year old is very reactive nervous, howls and barks at everything and when I work he gets so upset and anxious. He has eaten carpets, doors and frames he cannot be kept in a crate or anything but equally I can’t leave him in living room as he jumps on the table.
my work nade office attendance 3 X per week compulsory beginning of the year and my mother who would come and help many days had a nasty accident and can no longer help with them.
teh behavours have got worse and worse he has regressed with toilwting and it’s got to the point I dread being at home he pees on everything and barks all night at the slightest sound

I got a dog Walker for the day but she said it’s too hectic taking both - the 1 year old wriggles from his harness and runs off plus he pulls back on the lead.

he is very nervous and so so lovable. I know it’s because he’s a little anxious at times.
I looked at re homing him and found a lovely mum and daughter who can be around all day for him. Iv met them twice and they seem like they adore him but I’m just so worried how this will affect him. He is very attached to me and my other dog. I can’t think of anything else to try and I’m getting so many complaints from neighbours I’m scared my housing is at risk. He has also clawed at a fence which I try and block but he finds a way in

He does sound very stressed. Has he had any training? Could you afford a dog trainer?

I want to say let him go to them if you're sure you can trust them, but then you just can't be too cautious really. How do you know them? Do you have friends in common or anything?

I do agree that you should be rehoming though as he's left alone so much at yours. He's clearly not happy at all in your home, not your fault but he isn't. He clings to you and your other dog but that doesn't mean he's happy and he could be with someone who is home all the time.

Also, I should add my mum and dad took on a puppy (around 9 months old). The family who bought him couldn't cope with him as it got too much as they had 2 young children too. He coped fine moving home and is very happy now at 18 months old.
Some puppies do regress with toilet training and you have to start again with it but it very much sounds like he has separation anxiety.

Does the lady who is interested in rehoming know about this separation anxiety/behaviours?

What breed is he and you have to have to ask yourself where this behaviour stems from? You’ve had the dog since he was a puppy! It doesn’t sound like he’s a little bit anxious, it sounds like he has separation anxiety when you’re at work. If you’ve had him since he was a puppy these behaviours don’t just appear. Have you socialised him? Left him on his own when he was small? Trained him and supported him to be a confident dog? Puppies aren’t born with this type of anxiety. This is down to the owner. Poor dog.

This type of post makes me so annoyed. You buy a puppy, don’t train it, don’t build its confidence then try to rehome? This is like a lockdown dog, people got dogs thinking they could work from home forever then employers decided that they wanted staff back in the office/workplace. It was the dogs that suffered from having owners who never left them alone or taught them how to be confident.

Well obviously you should. You have two untrained dogs who you're leaving for a day at a time.
Why on earth did you get two?
And it's I've not Iv.

Yes rehome him and give him a better life than you can currently offer him. It would be selfish not to. His poor behaviour is indicative of his environment.

If you are concerned about letting him go to strangers, write a contract stating he is to be returned to you if it doesn't work out and that he is going to them for a 1 mth trial initially. If all good when you check up on him, extend this period to 3mths and eventually sign him over permanently including on the microchip. Make sure they and you sign the agreement and you both have a copy.

Do this mother and daughter have any previous experience of owning a dog, what breed is he and have you been upfront with them about his separation anxiety?

iv Had a few but it’s not really helped

He’s in been completely upfront and told her my main focus is finding someone who is home much more and this lady works from
home every day, she has owned dogs before including his breed and showed knowledge of his behavours. Iv spoken to her at legnth. Iv been looking for 3 months and she is the only person in trusted so far . We have taken it slowly and I feel she has built a connection
I know it’s now or never as finding the right match for him hasn’t been easy

Yes to rehoming. He sounds stressed and you will do him a favour. How’s the other dog coping? Is he untrained too?

Thank you for your constructive advice

a contract is a really great idea I will do this

yes they do have experience with a range of breeds of dogs iv seen the pictures including his breed. Iv told them everything about his anxiety

I'm feeling sorry for the older dog now
Will you re home him as well? He's going to loose his crazy mate and be home alone.

What breed are these dogs?

I think you are doing the right thing to re home and I'm sorry your circumstances have changed, I'd be saying yes quickly to the lady.

No he’s fine. He comes from
a completely different background though and has a different personality. He is fine on walks, goes to sleep for the 4-5 hours I’m out and interacts fine. I do worry they will really miss each other though

Thanks I feel massively massively guilty but I also know if I can’t cope then the sooner he moves the better. It breaks my heart as I love him
so much but I don’t feel like I have what he needs

Brilliant I hope you feel a bit better about yourself and your life now

Honestly, it sounds like you don’t have the time or lifestyle to suit (at least) the younger dog.

But you should be rehoming through a rescue. You can write a contract that the dog has to come back to you. But would you really go to the expense of trying to enforce it if they rehoming the dog.

Its great that the ‘seem nice’ but you have no clue if they will understand what they are getting into or cope when the reality hits of his daily problems. And lots of rescues. Even small ones will provide a lot of support if they struggle. Support you won’t be able to provide.

Do what’s best for the dog and regime responsibly.

What breed is the dog? Maybe someone can recommend a breed specific rescue.