Hello,
Me and my husband stopped smoking about 8 years ago. Since then we have had kids and my husband will occasionally smoke on a lads weekend which he always tells me about. The last few weeks I am sure I have smelt smoke on him when he's come home from somewhere but when asking he has compelled denied it. I felt it was all in my mind.
Anyway this morning I had to nip out with a child and when I got back 10 mins later I asked my other child where he was. She said he was in the garage. I went to the garage but he wasn't there. I found him upstairs cleaning his teeth. The whole room smelt of smoke. I asked if he had been smoking and said denied it twice to me and then eventually admit tied it. He said he's been doing it occasionally for a couple of weeks.
I feel so sad that he has lied to me. I can't think of a time I have lied to his face like that in the 20 years we've been together. I haven't spoken to him much today and the children are around but I feel so cross when I think about it. Not the smoking though, the lying. Aibu? Should I just get over it and not ruin an otherwise lovely weekend?