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To wonder where city or country life is better for a single person looking to meet new people

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Eyewanttobreakfree · 17/08/2024 14:26

I will likely relocate in the next 6 months, from abroad back to UK. My property budget means my realistic options in the South-East/London are a studio/1 bed flat in central London, or 2 bedrooms in outer London, towards the M25.
I know there are plenty of much cheaper places outside the southeast, but I don't know anyone there whereas I still have some links that I would hope to build on, in the S-E.

I've seen somewhere very attractive, modern, with 2 bedrooms in a relatively well connected to get to central London outer area. The only thing is, iit is pretty ,much adjacent to a place I was very unhappy in growing up. One part of me thinks I now need to cut links with this place for good.

Central London means a much smaller place, no spare bedroom for visitors. but obviously you're close to all the amenities and jobs and so on. I'm kind of thinking on an estate with a sense of community and organisations and so on.

Essentially I'm caught between go for somewhere that looks nice in what people call a nice area (and one I know well), and risk having to work through loneliness by living my entire social life away from where I live. I know the area, and while it is attractive, realistically I have little common with the people living there. Maybe that's less of a problem than I think. The alternative would be go for somewhere that chimes more with my soul, where realistically again I'd know no-one at the start in the immediate vicinity, but the above mentioned social possibilities. I do have existing friends in the UK, but they are quite scatted in and around London, 1 or 2 outside.

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Guavafish1 · 17/08/2024 14:28

Stay in central…if your looking for social life

TheSquareMile · 17/08/2024 16:09

@Eyewanttobreakfree

Are you planning to buy or rent and where do you need to get to for work?

Eyewanttobreakfree · 18/08/2024 01:25

Buy probably. Will need access to an airport- for work travel

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sarahzbaker · 18/08/2024 01:46

If you go to a village or town they will know all about you. Bloody woo
Everything.
Trust me. I grew up in one in Gloucestershire
London - no

TheSquareMile · 18/08/2024 01:46

Eyewanttobreakfree · 18/08/2024 01:25

Buy probably. Will need access to an airport- for work travel

@Eyewanttobreakfree

You would probably like the Barbican.

Would be handy for City Airport or Heathrow, if required.

https://www.frankharris.co.uk/properties/17715697/sales

PivotPivotmakingmargaritas · 18/08/2024 01:49

I’d go 1 bed in central- how often will you realistically have visitors? I have a spare room for “visitors” but it’s never used for visitors as none visit and I hate having guests stay over…

Better to be central where you have more events and groups to join- sounds amazing I’m rather jealous

EmmaGrundyForPM · 18/08/2024 01:52

Do you need to be in London for work? If so, buy in Central London.

If you don't need to be in London for work, look at other places. We used to live in Cambridge which is a great place for meeting people, plus lots of things going on. And it's only 30 minutes from Stansted.

OhcantthInkofaname · 18/08/2024 02:09

My question to you is what kind of life do you want to live? Do you wanna city life? Or a country style life? Answer that and you'll know where to move.

theduchessofspork · 18/08/2024 02:25

Well don’t go to the area you grew up in - that sounds like a terrible choice. Either go for London, or have a look at Cambridge or Brighton perhaps.

SmileLady · 18/08/2024 06:52

I was also erring towards somewhere like Cambridge. A single friend of mine moved there recently &she's made lots of new friends and joined running clubs etc. I'm not sure about air travel though.

GreenPoppy · 18/08/2024 10:30

Go central, or to a different outer London area.

You don't want to feel 'stuck in the past' and with constant reminders. I've got a similar situation in that where I grew up is a nice area, and I could afford it. Absolutely zero chance of me moving there though, I was very glad when my parents moved from there so that there was no reason to have to go there again.

Eyewanttobreakfree · 18/08/2024 18:33

Sounds like good advice. I guess with a 1 bed you can have people stay in a bed in the living room if it comes to it.
I think the Barbican would be too expensive. I was thinking about Oxford. Would seem to be my kind of place with an internationalist outlook, talks, concerts etc

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EmmaGrundyForPM · 18/08/2024 19:50

Oxford would meet your brief. The reason I suggested Cambridge upthread is that Stansted is only 30 minutes away. There are also direct trains to Gatwick although they obviously take longer!

Starseeking · 18/08/2024 20:50

If you're single and you want to meet someone, 100% go to the City. You'll be limiting yourself to a much smaller pool of choice in the countryside as a large number of people there will either be married with DC, or retired.

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