To not get why friend is like this?

[floaer]

Friend can be very competitive in a “I’m so busy with work/social life”’ way, it’s fine apart from being slightly irksome as she obviously has good qualities that outweigh this.

Anyway, she asked me and two mutual friends if we were doing our usual get together in December. Then when we started deciding on a date she said she’s too busy in December … then why suggest it?

I'm free in December, I'd love to join you and your pal for a few drinks. 😝

I had a friend who used to arrange to meet me frequently, but always said she couldn't make any firm commitment until just before as she was so busy, but always without fail stuck to the arrangement.

When I moved to London she sent me a card in the post saying she was coming to London for a few days for a wedding, and asked me to call her at a specific date and time, and she would let me know if she could meet. I rang her at requested time and she was in a restaurant with the bride to be and groom, and took great delight in telling me that she couldn't possibly meet me as she was so busy with the pre wedding celebrations! I think I was more confused that she'd bothered to send me a card in the post, rather than the fact she was then too busy to meet!

She tried to do it a second time, when she texted me saying she was passing through London on the way home from visiting a friend, and had a few hours spare in the afternoon. She said she couldn't guarantee she could meet as she might be meeting another friend first for lunch in Oxford street, but would text me at midday if she could. Surprise surprise she texted to say she was free, and could spend the whole afternoon with me, I was so fuming that I didn't reply to the text.

Asks about a get together in December then says she’s too busy in December? Bloody idiot.

Have a friend like this - been mates for 15 years or so and she’s lovely, but in the last year or so everything in her life is a drama, and everyone is making demands on her and her life is not her own bla bla etc. My life is not much different in terms of challenging family members and stress, but there are only so many times I can wait in all afternoon because she said she was going to pop in for coffee but was then ‘too busy’ and doesn’t text to confirm she isn’t coming until 6pm, by which time I could have gone shopping, arranged to meet someone else, walked the dogs. Done it three times in a row, despite initiating coming around and I am fed up now. Decided not to bother texting anymore and just go and meet other people in stead. If she can’t prioritise her friendship with me enough to meet me when promised, I’m moving on.

Life’s too short.

I can't be doing with people who are constantly "too busy" anymore. Just feels like a waste of time trying and let's face it, how many of these busy people are going to go and do particularly great things with their busyness?

Give me an average person that can actually be bothered to make time for me any day.

Second best to busy is the 'I'm exhausted' competitiveness. Ex friend mentioned earlier in a post couldn't meet me and my partner on a Saturday night to stay somewhere because she and her partner were so busy at work, both doing several peoples job that they needed to take the following Monday off to recover from a night away. And had run out of holiday.

The next time I asked her about doing several people's job as well as her own and how many extra hours she was doing. She said she only did her normal hours and left on time. The mind boggles!