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to reverse out of my driveway?

74 replies

EmmaGrundyForPM · 16/08/2024 13:10

Any parking thread on here where someone says it's difficult to reverse out of their driveway becayse of a badly parked car leads to hordes of responses about never reversing out of a driveway, you should always go in forward.

We live on a fairly busy road. I go swimming most mornings at about 6ish, when the road is quiet. However, when I get back home at some point between 7.30 and 8, the road is much busier. There are usually people very close to me. If I go past my house and then try to reverse into the driveway, there are often about 5 or 6 cars that have to reverse in order to let me do so. It can take ages. Whereas if I swing in forwards that issue doesn't occur.

So in our case, reversing in isn't always the best option I don't think. AIBU for going into the driveway forwards or should I be holding up half the town by insisting on reversing onto my drive and making the whole queue reverse as well?

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BogRollBOGOF · 16/08/2024 15:16

I have a family member on a busy main road just after a junction. The traffic is accelerate mode and as there's a side road close by, it's assumed you're indicating for that, so just to turn in requires checking of mirrors and managing road speed and position to manage the vehicle behind, as well as watching out for hasty oncoming right turners from the opposite side.

Pulling up to reverse would just result in a pile up of traffic and no space to manouver.

Inching off backwards until someone charitable pulls up and holds the traffic is safer. It just takes patience and fine control.

Double yellows, and the few hours a day it's quieter, the traffic is faster, and more red light jumpers.

I've no issue with reversing into parking spaces.

kitsuneghost · 16/08/2024 15:16

MontyDonsBlueScarf · 16/08/2024 14:36

@Boogiemam that doesn't make sense to me. If there's enough room to get out on the right when DH drives in hugging the left, then surely there would be the same amount of space available if he backed in hugging the other side? The drive and the car are both the same width as before. What am I missing?

Edited

So you have a driveway
looking at house you have fence to left, garden to right
reverse in and car door will not open because of fence
drive in it will open into garden

I get what you are talking about @Boogiemam

KarmenPQZ · 16/08/2024 15:26

As a pedestrian with young kids often on bikes / scooters I’m fairly terrified of cars reversing off drives. It’s not safe for kids

LlamaNoDrama · 16/08/2024 15:32

I do a drop off where I have to reverse and park (not safe to get out otherwise) and if people didn't drive up my arse it wouldn't be an issue and they wouldn't need to reverse.

SlipperyLizard · 16/08/2024 15:42

I live on a quiet road where houses have easy to access driveways, yet still lazy people drive in & reverse off, making it much less safe for pedestrians (and children in particular).

I do appreciate that some roads/driveway set ups mean driving in is the best (least worst?) option, but too many people who could reverse in put pedestrians at risk for their own convenience.

howlsmovingbouncycastle · 16/08/2024 15:44

Another one who always drove onto my drive and reversed off - like others, it was on a steep incline and a right PITA to reverse into.

In 15 years of reversing off I never had an issue - just eased back very
slowly and usually had the window open so I could listen as well.

CherryVanillaPie · 16/08/2024 16:03

I've reversed out in front of a parked police car with police inside before. They didn't arrest me or anything. Loads of people do it.

GettingLaterAndLater · 16/08/2024 16:04

I live on a busy road and agree, it's much more sensible to drive in forwards when the traffic is busy. There's no way with the parked cars on both sides that I would want to reverse with my hazards on stopping traffic in both directions.

Neighbours across the road do this every time and I would say they get tooted and worse several times a week.
Reversing out is much less stressful!
If I need to leave at rush hour the next day sometimes I do turn the car around in the evening but not often.

LoquaciousPineapple · 16/08/2024 16:11

ShowOfHands · 16/08/2024 13:53

DD is learning to drive ATM and says they've given up teaching reversing into a space and instead teach driving nose first into a space and then reversing out of it. It's an acknowledgement of the fact that people just won't do it the way you're supposed to.

I reverse from the road onto my driveway. I indicate, slow, stop, wait for a gap, make sure my reversing light is on and visible before I begin the manoeuvre. "Half the town" can wait. They have clear visibility, indicators and a reversing light telling them what's happening. They won't get that if I reverse out into traffic.

That's not true at all, reverse bay parking is one of the four manoeuvres you might have to perform on the test. Your daughter's instructor is talking bollocks or she's misunderstood and they’ve just not taught that skill yet. She definitely needs to ensure they teach her how to reverse park!

MintsPi · 16/08/2024 16:24

KarmenPQZ · 16/08/2024 15:26

As a pedestrian with young kids often on bikes / scooters I’m fairly terrified of cars reversing off drives. It’s not safe for kids

Yes but not holding up drivers is deemed more important than pedestrians it seems.

It is horrible walking behind a car which is going to reverse out as you have no idea if the driver has seen you or not.

Torcentre · 16/08/2024 16:25

You should reverse in

EmmaGrundyForPM · 16/08/2024 16:29

Sirzy · 16/08/2024 13:17

So you only ever go out at 6.30am?

Mostly, yes. If I go to my office (about once a fortnight) I leave at 6.30am. If I go to the beach (several times a week) I go at 6.30am or after work at 6.30pm.

It's the coming back after a 6.30am swim thats the tricky bit, because it's close to 8am when I get home which is when the road is at its busiest.

If I'm.popping into town I walk or cycle

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JabbaTheBeachHut · 16/08/2024 16:32

Another one saying use your hazard lights.

EmmaGrundyForPM · 16/08/2024 16:36

I don't see how using my hazard lights will help.

One of the problems is that our house is on a corner, so when I approach it and indicate left, people behind invariably think I am going to turn into the road, not into my driveway which is 30 foot before it.

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Changingplace · 16/08/2024 16:38

KarmenPQZ · 16/08/2024 15:26

As a pedestrian with young kids often on bikes / scooters I’m fairly terrified of cars reversing off drives. It’s not safe for kids

No different from anyone pulling off a drive either way as long as the driver is looking for it to be safe to pull out?

SapphireOpal · 16/08/2024 16:39

MontyDonsBlueScarf · 16/08/2024 14:36

@Boogiemam that doesn't make sense to me. If there's enough room to get out on the right when DH drives in hugging the left, then surely there would be the same amount of space available if he backed in hugging the other side? The drive and the car are both the same width as before. What am I missing?

Edited

Presumably there's grass or something on the other side of the drive so they can get out onto the grass rather than into the fence?

Torcentre · 16/08/2024 16:39

But surely all these issues about reversing in are just magnified when trying to reverse out?

it’s dangerous to reverse into a road

Changingplace · 16/08/2024 16:40

MintsPi · 16/08/2024 16:24

Yes but not holding up drivers is deemed more important than pedestrians it seems.

It is horrible walking behind a car which is going to reverse out as you have no idea if the driver has seen you or not.

Why would you walk behind a car that’s clearly reversing? That’s on the pedestrian to also make sure it’s safe, not to just hope they’ve seen you!

EmmaGrundyForPM · 16/08/2024 16:44

KarmenPQZ · 16/08/2024 15:26

As a pedestrian with young kids often on bikes / scooters I’m fairly terrified of cars reversing off drives. It’s not safe for kids

I understand that, but on our road there's a narrow bit of grass verge between my front garden and the pavement. So if I reverse, I can move out slowly and it's (relatively) safe.

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bergamotorange · 16/08/2024 16:45

EmmaGrundyForPM · 16/08/2024 16:36

I don't see how using my hazard lights will help.

One of the problems is that our house is on a corner, so when I approach it and indicate left, people behind invariably think I am going to turn into the road, not into my driveway which is 30 foot before it.

Don't indicate left, put your hazards on as you approach and then indicate left when you arrive.

You should reverse onto your drive.

Changingplace · 16/08/2024 16:48

Torcentre · 16/08/2024 16:39

But surely all these issues about reversing in are just magnified when trying to reverse out?

it’s dangerous to reverse into a road

On my road it would be more dangerous sitting with hazards on waiting for a space in the traffic to reverse in.

I drive straight in - not causing an obstruction.

When reversing out, I wait for a gap, which may take some time but I’m on the drive while waiting, so not in anyone’s way- again not causing an obstruction.

TwinklyAmberOrca · 16/08/2024 16:49

Highway code #201Highway code #201

Or perhaps you feel the highway code is for others and you're more superior...?

Just pull up along side your drive and indicate left. WAIT for a gap in the traffic then reverse.

If it takes ages then so be it.

If your not confident at reversing quickly then practice when quiet.

Or get a turntable driveway.

Using the road - Reversing (200 to 203)

Choose an appropriate place to manoeuvre. If you need to turn your vehicle around, wait until you find a safe place. Try not to reverse or turn round in a busy road; find a quiet side road or drive round a block of side streets.

https://www.highwaycodeuk.co.uk/using-the-road-reversing.html#:~:text=Do%20not%20reverse%20from%20a,drive%20out%20if%20you%20can.&text=check%20there%20are%20no%20pedestrians,in%20the%20road%20behind%20you.

bergamotorange · 16/08/2024 16:50

Changingplace · 16/08/2024 16:48

On my road it would be more dangerous sitting with hazards on waiting for a space in the traffic to reverse in.

I drive straight in - not causing an obstruction.

When reversing out, I wait for a gap, which may take some time but I’m on the drive while waiting, so not in anyone’s way- again not causing an obstruction.

Reversing out is more dangerous than reversing in. That is why the Highway Code tells you to reverse in.

regementaria · 16/08/2024 16:50

EmmaGrundyForPM · 16/08/2024 16:36

I don't see how using my hazard lights will help.

One of the problems is that our house is on a corner, so when I approach it and indicate left, people behind invariably think I am going to turn into the road, not into my driveway which is 30 foot before it.

ok so I am exactly the same position as you then

the combination of hazards and left indicate makes over drivers take note that something ‘unusual’ is about to happen and they hang back

Changingplace · 16/08/2024 16:54

TwinklyAmberOrca · 16/08/2024 16:49

Highway code #201Highway code #201

Or perhaps you feel the highway code is for others and you're more superior...?

Just pull up along side your drive and indicate left. WAIT for a gap in the traffic then reverse.

If it takes ages then so be it.

If your not confident at reversing quickly then practice when quiet.

Or get a turntable driveway.

When using a driveway, reverse in and drive out if you can

If you can - it’s guidance, not a hard set rule, you can’t be pulled up on it.

And this suggests you shouldn’t reverse on a busy road anyway, so if your drive is on a busy road you’re following this :)

Choose an appropriate place to manoeuvre. If you need to turn your vehicle around, wait until you find a safe place. Try not to reverse or turn round in a busy road; find a quiet side road or drive round a block of side streets.