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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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Original poster

well yes actually I am, but anyway...

11 replies

CrackerOfNuts · 16/04/2008 13:11

Dd2 has the day off next Thursday, so we have a shopping trip planned etc and I am really looking forward to it as I never get chance to spend time with each dc seperatly etc.

Anyway, I just told my mum, and now she is coming too.

Don't get me wrong, I love my mum to bits and couldn't cope without her, but I really wanted me and dd2 to be able to spend some time together on our own.

I won't tell my mum not to come, as thats not fair and I couldn't do it.

I feel like a bit of a bitch for even being a bit annoyed about it really.

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Broodybabywannabe · 16/04/2008 13:17

its understandable, cant you creat a reason your mum cant come??

chloesmumtoo · 16/04/2008 13:18

Oh your not. The trouble is I think we start to realize that dc's grow up to quick and how precious time is. I only have 2 dc's but trying to spend quality time or even talk to my older ds is very difficult with the usual bustle of the day. I start to panic now that he is getting older and wish I spent more time with him but probably his ds takes over anyway and old mum is not so interesting! Dd has many allergies and seems to take over alot of my spare time with one thing and another. I think maybe if you explained to her, but I know it would be hard.

Mamazon · 16/04/2008 13:18

why not explain to your mum that you were hoping for a nice day with just you and yoru DD. i am certain she would understand.

coppertop · 16/04/2008 13:19

Is there any way you can meet up with your mum later on in the day, eg for lunch? That way you get to spend some time alone with dd but your mum gets to go too.

belgo · 16/04/2008 13:19

I think it's perfectly reasonable to tell your mum that this is a trip for just you and your dd2. Then arrange another trip with your mum for another time.

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CrackerOfNuts · 16/04/2008 13:20

She would understand I think, but i'd feel awful, as she does such a lot for me and the kids, so i'll just put up with it.

We will still have a nice time i'm sure, and I don't think Dd2 will mind.

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CarGirl · 16/04/2008 13:21

can you ask your mum to collect dd1 or something after school so you and dd2 can have a longer day out together?

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CrackerOfNuts · 16/04/2008 13:21

Plus my mum said that she needs to go to a particular shop in the place we are going to, so i'll just leave it be i think.

If dd2 minded then i might have had a word, but i don't think she will tbh.

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CrackerOfNuts · 16/04/2008 13:22

I could cargirl, but Dd1 and Ds are already very unhappy that they don't get the day off, so I don't think they would be pleased with that.

If dd2 mentions her day off once more then I think dd1 may move out LOL.

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CarGirl · 16/04/2008 13:23

Can't dd1 and ds have a special treat with your Mum - going for tea, to compensate??????

chloesmumtoo · 16/04/2008 13:24

it's just as much for your dd2 as for yourself really. You prob should explain to her that you feel you dont get to give dd2 your individual attention usually. You see it on T.V where children really do crave your time no matter what age. I'm sure she would prefer some quality time with you to chat anyway and maybe araange a trip for just you and your mum. Say youd have more time to chat and do things that you both would enjoy

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