To feel adrift and disconnected

[Sallyball]

I’m 47 and in the lucky position where my life is in good shape. Good marriage, healthy kids (teens) , mother in reasonable health, decent job, plenty of socialising opportunities, plenty of friends.

So why am I feeling so adrift. It’s like I can’t ground or connect myself they way I used to. I almost don’t know who I am and feel like I don’t have strong connections . This week alone I met an old friend for a meal, played tennis with other friends and went for a walk with another pal. Despite that I almost feel lonely.

It’s like I always knew what made me happy and it was simple things but I can’t either enjoy them or connect with them the way I used to.

Im on HRT and don’t feel depressed , just weird. Is this an age thing - anyone else ?

Yeah I know what you mean. The last few years were very hard for various reasons and I feel like a different person now. Things I should feel deeply I just...don't.

I have different hobbies than I used to but they're quite solitary, and I feel just disconnected from most people and things now.

Dunno if it's peri related really. Maybe.

Have to say @HappyLittleNarwhal I don’t love it and I need to snap out of it somehow

I've felt like this for about 18 months maybe. Been to therapy, still the same. I worry this is it now really.

You can be lonely even when you’re surrounded by people. Like you say, it’s all
about the connection.

I mean this would be regarded as mild depression but I don’t really know. I think that maybe making plans helps