Hi,
During the last school year DS (6) little friendship group started to have some difficulties. It started off with small minor things like so and so tried changing the rules of the game etc. However it soon escalated and physical altercations became an occurrence and I got called in for a meeting. I gave my son what me and DH thought were appropriate and spoke about not using hands/ violence. But another altercation happened and my DS (6) got spoken to by the headteacher. I told DS to have some time away from this group and find other friends and he did.
A few weeks later one of the boys approached me on the playground and informed me that my DS was told to get involved by another child because if my DS didn't do then he couldn't be in the group. I approached the teacher and explained what the child had told me and they assured me they would look into this. Never heard anything more and no more altercations occurred.
Fast Forward to now I met up with a mum for a play date for the kids and they informed me that the same child came over to theirs the other and was horrible to their child and very rude and demanding this. When they attempted to talk to the mum they refused to listen and made excuses for the behaviour. That mum is now asking if my son can come over and play.
AIBU to say to no the play date and discourage that friendship completely?