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Odearr · 15/08/2024 15:52

Worried about DS writing, just wondering what age this level of writing ability would be typical for? This is his neatest writing and definitely helped by the little squares on the page

To ask what age child you think wrote this?
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Arrivapercy · 15/08/2024 23:48

General attainment is ok I think though he did receive 'working towards' for most categories on his end of year report so perhaps not exactly where he should be at

To be honest op (im sorry) but if he is receiving "working towards" for most areas that means he's below the age related expectations, sadly I don't think that is aligned with "general attainment is ok". The teacher should be voicing concerns, offering interventions and support in school and possibly also suggesting ways you can support his learning at home to help him catch up. Sadly i think some teachers aren't clear enough about quieter children who aren't disruptive, if they try hard but aren't attaining at age related levels.

While there's a huge range in writing at this age, I have a DS the exact same age who is "expected" (nowhere near exceeds) age related expectations. As a benchmark he might write half an a4 page of legible print (albeit his handwriting isn't great) with mostly correct spellings. There would be capital letters, basic punctuation, there would be describing words.

EverybodyLTB · 16/08/2024 08:42

My children all had atrocious handwriting at this age, much better now in their teens. All on various points of the Autism/ADHD spectrum. You need to ask for OT and CAMHS assessment and go on the wait list, even if you’ll save to go private get on those waiting lists as the NHS will be more comprehensive and collaborate better (ideally) with school.

From now, I’d suggest more things like Lego, remove pressure, if any, for the moment on academic progress. Build confidence with things like drawing together, climbing is great for building up their proprioception and motor skills. Reading for pleasure is a really good sign, find things similar to DOAWK at the library, maybe even sit down and copy out some of the drawings to encourage your child to do the same. I’m a big fan of leaning into what they’re good at, or making a game of what they struggle with, don’t let it get you down and don’t let the measurements of attainment become the be all and end all.

Arrivapercy · 16/08/2024 18:24

I’m a big fan of leaning into what they’re good at, or making a game of what they struggle with, don’t let it get you down and don’t let the measurements of attainment become the be all and end all.

While there's sense in this, literacy is an essential skill. It is much easier to keep up than catch up, and the earlier you tackle weakness and intervene, the more likely you can prevent it becoming a long term struggle.

Sticking your head in the sand does not help.

OP, he is young. If you put in the work now to get him caught up, it will help get his confidence up and put him in a much better position to keep up.

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