Aibu- scared of new job!

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Have been recommended a job from an old colleague but it is such a pay rise from what I am currently on (£25000 a year to £50,000 +) I am automatically self sabotaging and thinking I won't be able to do it, the role will be too big for me/too difficult. It's an area of what I do now but more of a manager/team leader role where I would be leading a team and provide refresher training on a subject.

Has anyone made a leap like this and has a success story for me/motivational advice : )

I'm particularly nervous re the training aspect - it's something I've not done before.

A man wouldn't think like that.

There is evidence that men are much likely to think "I'll wing it" or "I'll give it a go" than women are.

Give it a go. If it's not for you, it's not for you. But you won't know unless you try.

Good point @KnickerlessParsons !

I understand where your coming from. I have an interview tomorrow within the same company but for a higher/managerial role. I have all of the knowledge to do the role and the small bits that im not sure on i will learn quickly. It is also a pay leap for me. I am doubting myself and my abilities and wondering if i will be able to do the role. I think its more because tis a step out of my comfort zone. i know i will succeed in the role if i get it and i know that after a few weeks i will feel confident but i hate stepping out of my comfort zone in the first palce

This!! what's the worst that can happen if you apply - you don't get it - but that's just luck of the draw and hopefully you'd get some feedback if you'd have an interview.

A good few years ago now I jumped from earning 30k and managing 6 people to 50k and managing over 30.

I totally agree with @KnickerlessParsons on this one, I think definitely give it a go. I was terrified at first but it worked out.

I made a leap like this about a year ago and honestly, I wish I’d done it much sooner. Everything about the role is better and although it’s challenging it’s making an actual difference.

Remember - they wouldn’t give you the interview if they didn’t believe you could do it. With training the key is to act confident even if you don’t feel it. Whatever your knowledge level you will know more than those you’re training. You won’t be expected to know everything at first and confidence will come with time. Keep calm and take things step but step and you’ll be away.

Absolutely go for it. I did a similar leap and frankly I terrified myself with all the 💩that could happen. None of it did. I loved the new role (and pay!) and after a short adjustment period, it was actually easier than the lower paid role! I've supported lots of people (mostly women- I completely agree with the poster above) to make similar leaps since and not one has regretted it.

Like many women you are having an attack of the imposter syndrome, questioning your own abilities and self sabotaging convincing yourself you can’t do it. Reframe your thinking -

the role is based on something you already do so technically no new skills needed.

A former colleague has suggested it so they think you can do it !

Training - I bet you already do this, just on an informal basis one to one with colleagues when they ask a question so you can easily adapt ( and they can provide you with training on how to deliver training if you ask to polish your delivery )

People management - it’s a life skill that without realising it you already do every day , whether it’s at home with family, navigating friends and how you interact with your work colleagues. ( again training is available if you want some tips / to formally recognise how you adapt those life skills)

So all in all the answer is go for it - you will never know if you don’t try - have the confidence. Everyone feels nervous about going for a new job / bigger role and it’s normal to have a few moments of doubt but guess what in 99.9% of cases it works - you can do this - put that self sabotaging voice in the cupboard where it belongs - big girl pants on and go for it !

I am a man and I definitely think like that!

Thanks everyone for your words of encouragement !! Very appreciated

Look at it this way..if they offer you the job its because they think you can do it! And if they think you can do it they are prepared to pay you £50k. There’s only one way to find out…

I'll let you in on a little secret...........

For professional roles (i.e. not packing boxes of crisps), no one really knows what they are doing.

This becomes more acute the more senior you are.

You could consider career coaching session to give you a confidence boost before you start, but honestly your old colleague wouldn't have recommended you if she didn't think you were capable - don't forget she works there already, wouldn't want to ruin her own reputation!

Agree, Just go for it. Prepare as well as you can for the interview, maybe using your friend as a trusted adviser, and prepare to work really hard if you get it, and, if you don't, the experience will stand you in good stead anyway. My experience is I had a 50% increase, not quite the 100% offered here, but a different world from going from quasi public sector to the Big 4. Jesus, the first year was hard. shakes head but good ever since.

Everyone who is currently in a high flying position has made this leap at some point, maybe several times in their career.

Go for it! Even if it doesn't work out you will learn something.