to give my "white" niece a "black" dolly for her birthday?

[paow]

Hi there, I went to my local toy shop and bought a really nice sling for my 4 year old niece to carry around a little dolly. They had a lovely fair trade "ethnic" dolly to go with it which is of a dark brown colour.
Now, my neice's family lives in a small town where there are no black people.
I live in London and I thought it was pretty normal to buy such thing, but now dh thinks my niece's parents will not like it and think it's weird as they will think that I am giving her a black little baby dolly to carry around as if to encourage her to have a black boyfriend? yikes, what is wrong with my dh!!! and his family IS very close minded.
Would you be offended? or if you are black and you are given a "white" dolly? would love to hear your opinion.

I have stuck to my guns and wrapped it ready for next week.

at TenaciousG! OMG, am I encouraging my sons to do it with bears? Well, if every holiday they book as adults is to the North American Wilderness, I will Suspicious.....

Seriously, I think your dh has very strange ideas. Nothing wrong with a black doll at all and actually, even if he were right, wtf is wrong with having a black boyfriend, anyway?

if sh elikes it( which i doubt tbh )
he will eb all" oh and it was MY idea)

I had a black doll when I was little and I didn't like it at all. Not sure you can accuse a child of racism, maybe I was in an innocent type way, but I liked to pretend my dolls were my babies and well, that one clearly wasn't.

(PS - I dont think like that any more!)

dd is white, and has a black dolly.

btw, does the enlightened hubby think that because the dolly is a little girl this will encourage her to be a lesbian?????

Sigh...........

return dh for a refund.

dd's have ethnic baby annabels. they are the ones that are most played with.

damm thats why i married an algerian! Because i had an algerian dolly! What a load of crap! What about tom from tots tv and milo? My dh also i was gonna make my son gay when i brought him a toy pushchair! Men!

snort at Tenacious

I make dolls and at the craft fair I went to a couple of weeks ago, the "brown/black" dolls sold first and the ones that were left got more compliments than the fairer skin ones.

I think its a lovely gift and your dh has a bit of a warped mind.

oh fgs
is he intellectually challenged

are you free for theatre yet?

Mehdismummy: DS loves his (pink) pushchair

No comments at all so far (though we do live in North London...)

its must be a north london thing then! Ds loves his too! When i first brought it he did not leave it alone! He also loves his mini henry!

when I was a kid, in the 70's my dools were a bit like the UN and strangely I remember one of them was a boy who does dolls like that?
freaky parents

I had a black doll when I was little - in Dublin in the 1960s. Her name was Lulu. I loved her to bits. Took her everywhere. My mother hated her but it was she reckons she didn't have a nice face.

Well this is quite horrific.

Not least because if your dh is right [flying pig] then I have encouraged many an innocent child to get into bestiality with my thoughtless presents of teddy bears and toy dogs. I bought a play zoo for a child once - which amounts to an orgy in your dh's thinking.

Will I go straight to Hell?

[worried]

dd1 was given her first doll by my brother - a black baby who she called Pat and still plays with him 5 years later. Tbh didn't really think about it - we live in a very white village too. I think your dh is being a bit daft.

I am a bit worried that the biro scribble on Pat's upper arm might encourage her to get a tattoo though.

what's wrong with boy dolls sfx?

paow your DH sounds a bit strange. Give uyour neice the doll, I would especially if it where likely to cause a stir!

OMDB it is not that the doll was dressed as a boy you see, it was far more specific than that iyswim

Well I'm glad it was more specific than just clothes, or it would be a bit odd wouldn't it!

Boy dolls should have the right anatomy. You wouldn't expect fingers to be left off a doll so why expect genitalia to?

My MiL asked me a couple of months ago if she could buy dd a black doll for her birthday as apparently she always wanted one but wasn't allowed

I was like, yeah, of course get her a doll - she loves dolls! What does it matter what colour it is?

Dd (2) loves her doll (as predicted), and it is baby annabell gadget-type that goes 'Mama ha ha ha ha' which she finds hysterical

I suppose it is normal, in those days all my girl dolls where not anatomically accurate, and my dd only has rag dolls so I have no idea what dools look like down there

Lordy I gave my son a black dolly, and numerous stuffed and plastic animals. Have I turned him into a gay man who secretly fancies only black women and cats? What about the toy dinosaurs??? This is horrifying.

YANBU.

Am not even going to unravel the layers of wrongness in what your dh said!

Well, whilst agreeing with the general level of scepticism of posters towards your DH's barmy opinions, (and as the mother of a boy who regularly plays with his dark-skinned Baby Born), I think you should brace yourself for some pretty small-minded comments from your BIL and SIL, and for the child's enjoyment of the doll to be potentialy undermined by this.

Very depressing.

(Blu)