To say this is stifling and odd?

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For a thirty something woman to still be living at home but her parents (In their sixties) texts her (when they are all in the same house) then if she doesn't respond as it's trivial , they will often send another.

When she is out alone, they will also text, again, with something trivial. She often just replies late with an emoji or not at all but they still continue. They also rely on her to make them cups of tea all day if they are all at home together, like of a weekend and make a point almost of passive aggressiveness if she makes one for herself only. They depend on her for company and can't see at all why all the above would be annoying.
Person is in the process of making a move but struggling as prices keep rising and they are single.

Whatever age you live with your parents you will always be a child to them.

Personally I think adults living with their parents is really odd anyway. If you work you can rent surely? It would drive me crackers.

Making a cuppa just for yourself is rude tbh

The woman needs to move out.

Are you the 'Person' op?

Are you talking about yourself, or someone else? Living together as adults is hard, my mum annoys me sometimes and I don’t live with her, I think we’d drive each other mad if we did. Unfortunately it’s probably a case of sucking it up or moving out. They probably won’t change at their age.

True, but you’d typically expect a bit of reciprocity.

I thought this too. Why wouldn't you make a cup of tea for everyone?
I had to move in with my parents briefly in my 20s and I was so glad it was only for a couple of months.

Whoever this woman is, she needs to move out and become independent. Sharpish. Rent a room, a flat, whatever, but it's high time to go.

Texting her is probably an improvement over them wandering in to chat to her (especially as she doesn't appear to like them very much)

Making a .
up of tea for yourself without asking the others in the house if they'd like a drink is just rude.

The woman is presumable benefiting from a low rent, but she wants it with all the advantages of independent living. She can't have both and needs to make a choice as to which is more important to her.

I'm guessing that the parents expecting their daughter make them tea all day is wearing really fucking thing.

Sorry! I didn't mean to be so exhibitionist. DCat was on the keyboard and has clearly pressed something, and I don't know what!

It’s an unusual situation: she’s in her thirties but is essentially still living like a teenager, so her parents have never really seen the parent-child relationship develop, as is normal when adults move out and into their own homes and lives - so they still see and treat her as they always did. It sounds stifling yes, but this woman is also facilitating it - there are options for moving out even if they aren’t the perfect house of her dreams.

Why would anyone be expected to brew up for anyone in the house? The same room maybe, but not the house.

Adults that age need their own place. Living at home with their parents pushes them back into a dynamic they have grown out of, and both parties can behave unreasonably and start to harbour resentment.

Thank you! So weird. You offer in the immediate vicinity, not go out of your way to track everyone down. You want tea? Come downstairs/out of garden and make one.

@AgathaSultana I don't think you mean that all adults who live with their parents, are odd do you? you can't, cos you don't know all adults who live with their parents. You don't know all of them.

My child, her partner and I share a house/home. I certainly do not treat either of them as children. We live very happily together, as there adults. @every

I do find that an odd situation to be honest. It's just my opinion and I'm sure others think it's perfectly normal