DH Depressed

[boymamm]

So my DH has told me today that he's feeling depressed about money. For context we do struggle month to month with the cost of everything rising.
He said he feels depressed that we never have any money to do anything or go out anywhere and I said we don't need to spend a lot of money to go out for the day, we can just take £10 for lunch and then petrol money.
My DH however wants to do something every weekend, he's always been this way since before we have our DC. I'm more of a homebody.
He also wants more time to do his hobbies (golf,fishing) but this obviously costs money as well.
I said if he wants to start doing more things and going out at weekends more then we can but it'll just mean having to budget a lot tighter and make sacrifices but this still seems to depress him.
I can understand why he feels that way as he's the main earner and his wage doesn't stretch too far. I'm currently pregnant and have been made redundant so I'm not bringing anything to the table at the moment.
I can't help but feel frustrated and a little bit annoyed at him. Although I do understand how he feels it's also the reality for a lot of families at the moment and I feel like he needs to suck it up a bit.
AIBU to feel like family life is just not for him? It feels like me and his DC are just making him miserable

Really hard to say. What type of thing does he want to do if a weekend?

If your income has dropped markedly recently because of your redundancy then possibly that is what is affecting your DH.
Having to get used to managing on less money can really make you depressed.
Plus there is the extra expenses of the new baby to add to the equation.

Hopefully ,if you continue to be positive that you can still enjoy small things even with less money , then he might mentally adjust his thinking.

I don’t think it’s fair to say family life isn’t for him, it sounds like a really difficult situation where he is going out to work and then having no money at all to have any enjoyment- everybody would be miserable in those circumstances.

I LOVE my family, I love family life, I love my husband and my daughter, but I also love going out for breakfast and a coffee altogether on a Sunday morning, family trip to the aquarium/soft play, I love having an evening out with my friends every few weeks for a meal and drinks, I love having a date night with my husband for dinner & cinema etc. If you stripped everything in my life back and we were spending every minute of every day scrimping and saving, giving up all the fun bits of our lives, so that I was in a situation where I was working hard all week and still couldn’t have anything to enjoy at the weekend, I’d be miserable. That doesn’t mean I don’t like family life, it’s just incredibly difficult to work hard for seemingly no reward.

Walking is free and you can take a picnic

A lot of museums are free

Going to a local park with a deck of cards