To be shocked at an adult-only tea-shop?

[GreebosWhiskers]

Before anyone gets their hopes up, it wasn't that kind of adult-only

On holiday a few weeks ago we were wandering around looking for somewhere nice to get a jammy scone (as you do) & spotted what looked like a nice wee tea shop. We checked out the menu in the window - looked good - & were just about to go in with 3yo dd & 17mo ds when I spotted, right at the bottom, some guff about being pleased to provide a relaxed & friendly adult-only atmosphere.

I have to admit I was gob-smacked & highly miffed. I was all for pretending I hadn't noticed the adult-only bit & going in with the DCs just to see if they'd chuck us back out again but dh wouldn't let me.

This was a very popular wee coastal village not far from Edinburgh & it gets a lot of foreign visitors - it's no wonder a lot of people think the British aren't child-friendly!

I'd go too!

It's a private business, they can cater to whoever they want, I suppose.

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And while we're on the subject can you believe that adults aren't allowed to play in the ball pool at soft play?

TBH - Sounds like a great place to me, these places are brilliant. Relaxed, less messy, quieter. I usedto love going to our local one once I had dropped the kids at school.

I used to meet up with a couple of friends for coffe with their toddlers in tow. Mine was at nursery so I could sit back and observe the filthy looks of the other(mainly elderly) customers. Think that'll be me in 20 years or so

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i go in the ballpond. then throw the balls back at dd2 when she throws them at me. lol.

I don't think there's anything wrong with having a child free cafe. I'm with Misdee, a secret baby hater (not really, but they are LOUD)!

it's nothing like saying "no redheads/people with disabilities". If the teashop owners said that "children must be seen and not heard" there would be outrage about that too, because making noise is what children do. so surely it's better to just say no children than to dictate their behavior.

Some holiday resorts such as centre parks/butlins ban male/female only groups because of the disruption they cause (as these groups generally consist of hen parties) it's no different.

There's nothing wrong with wanting to have some time away from children - especially other peoples'!

[whispers]

'twas North Berwick.

Thing is, it wasn't made particularly obvious - there was just a wee bit in small writing on the bottom of the menu in the window (which I doubt all prospective customers would read) - so I wonder how many families go in & are a bit when they're asked to leave.

I can see why some places like pubs are adult-only but this is a tea-shop ffs at the sea-side where loads of families holiday. I have to say as well that it didn't look overly busy whenever we passed it.

But I suppose - like you say - their business, their rules.

in the immortal words of shakespeare...kids are like farts, you love your own but everyone else's stink. . If dp and i get time off for good behaviour we always go to a bar/restaurant that is no kids... Peaceful bliss

lol geordieminx