AIBU to call out racist FIL

[Emmysass]

FIL has right wing political views and shares inflammatory posts on Facebook about "boat people", "look after our own first" etc.

I spoke to him a few years ago about the way he referred to the Chinese takeaway and corner shop. Hasn't said it around me or the kids since.

I usually ignore his sharing of inflammatory posts and bite my tongue but today I was particularly annoyed and replied by commenting on his social media post saying it was this kind of scapegoating migrants as to blame for all of societies ills that stoked the riots last week.

Call it out? Delete? Bearing in mind I will have to see him face to face and he is, political views aside, an otherwise doting grandad.

Perhaps explain to him that you will have to remove him from your social media!

It's never unreasonable to call out racism. I'd do it in person though.

You're right to pull him up on blatantly racist slurs.

But there's no law saying you have to read his social media. Just mute it and forget about it.

I would just block him on social media so I don't see his racist posts. If he asks you why you blocked him, tell him the truth - that you find his views offensive and you don't want to see it. Does he spend time alone with your children? I would want to make sure he's not talking like this in front of them.

Stop following him on social media. Why you're reading his posts is beyond me.

Remove.
Block.
Make it clear what sort of actual language you'll accept in your home/around your children.

Why are you following a racist on Facebook?

I told my FIL that to remain friends in real life I had removed him from my social media as I think some of what he posts is racist nonsense. I told him he doesn't ever say these things in real life and I didn't like the person he is online. He was a bit huffy but later that week sent me a message saying he looked at his posts and could see where I was coming from and he doesn't want to be that person.
So basically he was ashamed he let his racist bits show online and now he'll be more careful. I don't like him but tolerate him as he's a good grandfather but he knows I'm on to him. My husband isn't on social media so it was me that dealt with it, other wise I would have asked him to talk to his dad about it too.

You can put boundaries in place about how he speaks at your home or around you and your children; but you can't control what he says on social media.
You don't have to follow him or read his posts. If he chooses to post racist rants, he can't also expect to keep in contact with you on SM.

I'm mute him on sm.

I'd ignore his nonsense unless he said anything directly to me.