Wasteful family member Dniece

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My DB’s daughter who is 13 is very wasteful. For example if we do a buffet she’ll put 20 prawns on her plate but eat 3. My DB laughs and doesn’t stop her. We had some fruit out, cherries so expensive, she filled her bowl, didn’t eat them all but others missed out. Of course cherries were easy enough to rinse but she will put her eaten stones on top.

I did a sushi buffet she got 6 gyoza and just nibbled the pastry.

DB does spoil her, she has all the latest fashions etc. I have DDs who are 9 and 12 and they do look up to her in a way, but even they are sometimes shocked. If DB and SIL won’t do anything can I say something?

Thanks. Better get my big girl pants on. I’m still gutted about the prawns and cherries. And PP is right it’s nothing to them in the grand scheme of their wealth in comparison to ours. I’m not bothered about that we can still afford cherries and prawns! Just not 20 prawns for one child who then goes on to not eat them

I can see where you’re coming from, early teens especially with a sibling who needs more attention I’d worry about saying anything which can cause a relationship with food . She might be doing it to get told off because , hey! Even negative attention is attention.

Years ago in one of those pizza all you cat eat buffets a group of young boys took so many slices of pizza and took one bite of each slice and abandoned them Then tried to get more .
The manager came over , read the riot act and made them finish what was on there plate .
probably wouldn’t get away with ha now but good on him. Hope the selfish little shits we’re banned too.

If she was at my house, I would quite light heartedly call her out, saying 'oi, who took all the cherries? And didn't even eat them?'
Take her bowl and make a point of washing them and putting them back. Then say 'please just take what you need next time'.
If it's at her own house, you can say what you like but if DB isn't enforcing it and just encouraging her then you'll not get very far I'm afraid.
I'm not excusing it, but a lot of young teens can act quite thoughtlessly, sometimes for attention, sometimes just bc their brains are developing and their pushing boundaries. One would hope she'd grow out of it pretty soon.