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Has anyone had a breast enlargement on the nhs in the last few years

220 replies

nobreasts · 12/08/2024 11:51

Hi I have no breasts
It's impacted my bf of my children
I am healthy on the lower end of BMI
Have no breasts
GP in agreement
Have had babies so not particuarly a sex dissorder
Genuinely no breasts

Very upset

Have asked for an enlargement with nhs but Gp said he's never encountered and unsure how to go further thru this with NHS

Any advice appreciated

OP posts:
AlexaON · 13/08/2024 09:58

Sorry if this is a really silly suggestion, but have you looked in to specialist bras OP? Even specialist swimming costumes. Post-mastectomy types? These would at least be a non-invasive option while you explore the pros and cons and practicalities of surgery.

And sorry about the savage responses you’ve had.

Waitingfordoggo · 13/08/2024 13:44

Catza · 12/08/2024 12:40

People can have sex changes on the NHS. Sex change is not the same as gender reassignment surgery. See my comment further up for NHS source.
This thread is about OP who is not transgender. If you have concerns about equitable access to healthcare, I suggest you write to your MP.

Sorry for the diversion OP but just wanted to ask @Catza what is the difference between sex change operations and gender reassignment operations?

Catza · 13/08/2024 13:53

Waitingfordoggo · 13/08/2024 13:44

Sorry for the diversion OP but just wanted to ask @Catza what is the difference between sex change operations and gender reassignment operations?

The poster referred to "sex change" which includes non-surgical means (for example, hormone therapy). NHS funds some gender reassignment surgeries. Brest augmentation and facial feminisation are not funded as they are considered cosmetic surgeries. Gender reassignment surgery is part of "sex change", if you like. But not all sex change procedures are gender reassignment surgeries.

Waitingfordoggo · 13/08/2024 15:56

Ah, I thought you were talking about surgeries. Thanks for explaining @Catza.

MsCactus · 13/08/2024 19:16

ThatOneUncomfortableEyelash · 12/08/2024 21:54

That's true, though I think people overestimate the power, efficacy and availability of mental health support.

And the main reason I mentioned it is that you're not comparing like with like. Being a woman without breasts in a society where (for some reason) large numbers of women don't appear to have breasts at all is very different to being a woman without breasts in a society where every single woman except you seems to have breasts, it's treated as an intrinsic part of being a woman, and breasts in general are freighted with meaning about femininity and attractiveness and personality and vulnerability and motherliness and comfort and obscenity and danger and matronliness and sexuality and class and age and fertility etc. etc. etc.

Maybe surgery would help the OP specifically, maybe not. But even in cases where the treatment truly is purely about fixing some noticeable physical abnormality to make them look more typical (in the hope this will have beneficial effects on the way they can live their lives), automatically dismissing a treatment as cosmetic and therefore not worth spending taxpayer money on would be short-sighted IMO.

In carefully-assessed circumstances, this kind of treatment can be medically justifiable, even if it's entirely about the way you look. It can improve quality of life, increase functioning, maybe prevent expensive mental and physical illness down the line.

But sometimes it won't help, because the issue is really elsewhere, or it goes wrong, or a lot of other things. I'm really not on the side of "Go OP, go demand your breasts!"

I just think that some posters were being pretty glib and unpleasant to a distressed woman. OP wanted to know how to navigate the NHS system to request surgical treatment for a medically-diagnosed and very visible physical issue, one that she feels is profoundly affecting her quality of life and mental health. What she got was a thread where I feel like the combined effect is a crowd of people berating her as greedy, vain, selfish, shallow, not trying hard enough, on and on.

I don't think most people here are against OP having the surgery - I think most are against the idea of the NHS paying for it.

The reality is there are life saving cancer treatments for children that the NHS does not fund because they're too expensive. There are life prolonging drugs that similarly the NHS does not fund, because they have to prioritise conditions and who gets what.

The reality is that in order to pay for these extras, they do cut back on life saving treatment. I saw one example of a drug that would give children six months longer to live, and they said no because they wanted to fund something else.

There's mothers with psychosis who don't get proper treatment on the NHS (I know of someone this happened to, and their children's lives became in danger) because mental health funding in the UK is so depleted.

These are hard decisions, and there's just not enough funding for all of it. If the NHS funds OP's boob job, the money comes from somewhere - likely an emergency situation, because that seems to be the only thing the NHS is funding properly at the moment.

That's why people are arguing against OP - not because they don't think it's important she gets a boob job to help her mental health, or a good thing, but because there are more needy people who need that healthcare.

AlexaON · 13/08/2024 20:07

OP, I can sense your distress and it's annoying that so many people are choosing to pick apart whether this should be done on the NHS or not. Personally I would trust that if you can find some way of getting it done, then a clinician has judged that there is a need.

(As an aside, children - including mine - have very expensive orthodontic treatment on the NHS. It's very far from life threatening to have wonky teeth. But the NHS recognises that our appearance can have a huge effect on our overall wellbeing.)

On the other hand, it's an AIBU so you're going to get lots of people saying you're unreasonable, whether you're asking or not.

ThatOneUncomfortableEyelash · 13/08/2024 20:08

MsCactus — I don't feel the existence of those difficult funding decisions and damaging cutbacks justify those posts that were just sneery, simplistic, mean-spirited little slapdowns that didn't acknowledge any of OP's distress or explanation of the medical context. It's not like they were discussing the nuances of cost vs medical benefit, quality of life, the remit of the NHS, whether it should restrict care to only life-threatening stuff, whether and how we adequately fund our health service etc. — just treating it like she's trying to scam the NHS into buying her a massive new telly or something

AllPrincessAnneshorses · 13/08/2024 21:09

SeriouslyStressed · 12/08/2024 12:07

You'd get it if you were a man claiming to be a woman. Sadly, women who are distressed by their bodies not being visibly womanly are ignored.

No you bloody wouldn't. Reported for transphobia

OhBeAFineGuyKissMe · 13/08/2024 21:47

No breast tissue due to cancer treatment - is funded (and from here most think this is reasonable)

No breast tissue due to genetic condition - not funded and from these responses is seen as purely cosmetic and should be treated by counselling.

Interesting difference in opinions.

seedsandseeds · 13/08/2024 23:01

Nosleepforthismum · 12/08/2024 13:24

I sympathise OP but I’m not sure the NHS will be a viable option. If this is the case, I’d really try and look at other ways to be happy and accepting of your natural body. I have a couple of features that I truly loathed as a child and also as an adult. I have looked at cosmetic surgery countless times but I realised after having my own children, that they’d inherited my flaws and every day I make a huge effort to be kind to myself about my appearance as I hope my children will be about theirs. I’m a couple of years down the line with practicing this and I feel more content than I ever have with my appearance.

I love this.

I feel similar.

I've been under CAMHS since aged 4 and expressed hatred of my nose some years later and have done so ever since. I've always been told I cannot get rhinoplasty on the NHS.

Now I have a dc I wouldn't ever. I could die on the operating table, for one. Secondly, like you say, my dc is me so if I'm saying my nose is disgusting then what are theirs?

Kimh95 · 28/05/2025 04:19

Hi, I know this post is old but just wanted to say I got one on the nhs in 2017 I went to my doctors to express my concerns about my breast tissue and skin,(really thin skin around my boobs) that were sagging. He applied for funding and it got accepted
hope this helps xoxo

BluePandaCool · 28/05/2025 04:24

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Kimh95 · 28/05/2025 04:40

Yes you are right :) xxx

Koalafan · 28/05/2025 04:45

Much as I understand how this might well be really hard for you, it's presumably not life threatening and would be classed as cosmetic. Maybe look into potential sources of funding if you do feel it's important enough to go forward with.

XWKD · 28/05/2025 04:53

Having no breast development whatsoever isn't really the same as not thinking your boobs aren't big enough. I can't understand why people are being so hard on the OP.

Her breasts never developed. That's a medical issue.

40andlovelife · 28/05/2025 04:57

OneHeartyCat · 12/08/2024 12:14

Wouldn’t the first port of call be mental health services? I’m sure you’ve explored this route but surgery seems a very quick jump. Most people I know who got implants sorely regretted them later.

That’s interesting. I know at least 9 people with implants, myself included. I have never heard one person say they regret them.

Nugg · 28/05/2025 05:07

I’d be disgusted if the NHS funded this sorry it is cosmetic

SapporoBaby · 28/05/2025 06:07

Your children are now past breastfeeding and you don’t mention any other problems so it’s not really a medical issue, in your case, to have small boobs.

I understand you’re upset, but it’s not the taxpayers job to pay for this and nor should it be. NHS money should be going to people with actual medical conditions.

Would you choose to take £10,000+ out of the funds for cancer treatment so you can have a boob job? No?

I would suggest saving up or getting a loan to pay for your augmentation if you still want it. It’s a private, cosmetic matter not a medical need.

Remember - it will need redoing every 15 years or so for the rest of your life.

Small breasts are very chic and most models are around an A cup. I’d suggest making peace with your body.

sadmillenial · 28/05/2025 06:47

what a horrible sad thread..... people can disagree without being arseholes about it

OP - i hope the NHS has given you some options and comfort even if the surgery isnt an NHS option. Good luck to you x

SwanOfThoseThings · 28/05/2025 06:55

I've got enormous, saggy boobs that give me constant back pain - I would love to be flat chested, to have those type of boobs where only the nipple actually sticks out from the rib cage.

The grass is always greener.

Kimh95 · 28/05/2025 08:10

Nugg · 28/05/2025 05:07

I’d be disgusted if the NHS funded this sorry it is cosmetic

Time to be disgusted then because they deffo do fund this in some cases xx

EmeraldShamrock000 · 28/05/2025 08:13

You could try. I'm not sure the service is available anymore.
Can you take on an extra part-time job and apply for a finance loan, they're half the cost on Lithuania, afaik Lithuania has a clean record for cosmetic surgery.

EmeraldShamrock000 · 28/05/2025 08:19

I know of 2 cases who had the surgery done on the HSE Irish NHS.
There is a budget.
I remember the UK outrage at Jodie Cunningham 5000 NHS implants.
I had to Google her name, but remembered the uproar.

andtheworldrollson · 28/05/2025 08:26

It does sound cosmetic not medically required
( and I would so love to be in your position! )
we have the bodies we have and the more that we can accept and make the most of what we have that the healthier for us

Mushypeasandchipstogo · 28/05/2025 08:45

Sorry but I definitely don’t think that the NHS should or would pay for this. Two of my friends had to have reconstructive surgery after mastectomies which they had to pay for themselves. (Even health insurance would not pay for this.)