To think staying silent is just the best way to be?

[lifekilledthedream]

To just achieve things in silence? Just better yourselves in silence?

Like if you start a new relationship or get a new job then you don’t need to tell everyone?

I’m just sick of others peoples opinions all the time. I know that’s life. But I’ve realised I share too much and it welcomes too many unwanted opinions and I’m over it.

You'd tell some people I suppose? If I started a new job I'd certainly tell family and friends. In fact I'd definitely put it on LinkedIn.

How sad to think that people shouldn’t share good news about something like a new job.

New relationship feels more private though.

If you’re at the stage where you’re hiding your good news because of other people’s negative opinions, it’s time to reassess the people you have around you.

It depends what you mean

sharing everything online yes I completely agree

but you should be able to share your life events (not all the minutiae obviously) with the people closest to you without them shitting all over it or giving you constant opinions and criticism on it.

You mean a bit like the phrase "Keep your own counsel"?

Like me atm. Im splitting up from my H. Were getting divorced. Ive told four people. None of my family or other friends/work colleagues know as i cba to keep talking about it. I have enough strength in those ive told. Im hoping to get out the otherside and just announce im single! Cant wait but equally finding not telling people whats going on quite amusing, swerving conversations and turning relationship discussions back to them etc! Its almost a bit of a game

If it prevents people upsetting you with their unasked for opinions, it sounds like a good plan.

I'm not really one for over sharing but the things you mention I definitely would tell close friends and family, I wouldn't make a big announcement or anything but I would certainly mention it in conversation

Sometimes those opinions are about love and protection though. If my friend had started dating an abuser I'd express concern though I guess they wouldn't like it.

I don’t tell anyone anything good or bad happening in my life outside of my home.

I’ve learnt to do that the hard way because I used to share stuff and thought others cared, but realised I was surrounded by the types of people who either didn’t care or just wanted something to gossip about. They also loved to rain on the good stuff and seemed to enjoy the bad stuff that happened to me. It became easier just to keep it to myself.

I met a woman who was 7.5 months pregnant but hadn't told anybody. She said she broke the news to her mum a few days ago and hadn't told her in laws yet nor her best friend. She said she got a thrill from hiding it from people with her clothing and behaviour 😬 There's a fine line between wanting privacy and acting a little crazy!

I have learnt to hold back more. I use to share every thought/emotion. But I learnt this can be used against you. I also don't get involved in people who constantly go on about their amazing life. I listen then quietly enjoy my own life.

That really depends, doesn't it?

I mean, if people on FB are starting to question your third new relationship in the past month...