If friend sighed whilst talking to you??

[Birdandbees]

Would you presume it was directed at you? I sometimes get this sort of vibe of my friend but I don’t know if I’m overthinking as I tend to think the worse but today I was talking to her. Just random chit chat whilst our DC were playing and she verbally sighed and just sort of stared as I was talking. Tbh she does seem a bit stressed atm but I can’t help but think it’s directed at me. What would you think?

I’d ask if she was ok! Did you not?

I did, she just sort of shuck it off and was oh nothing nothing sorry kind of thing. I’m worried that I was boring her

I would have to ask her. You can do it gently and non confrontationally. I appreciate it's nerve wracking to do this. But we spend so much time second guessing people. If you've had a continued feeling then you absolutely have to enquire a bit more with her directly.

I think you are taking it as being about you, but my first instinct would be to think it sounds like she is exceptionally stressed. If you have the energy to be supportive, you could ask her.

It would depend what you were talking about. Is it likely it was something you think she might not agree with or find a but tiresome? Or was her child or your child doing something which displeased her? I think I'd be inclined to say "everything alright?" next time she does it. Then she might tell you

She's probably stressed, it's hard to say really, was it an impatient "I'm fed up with this" sigh, because that's pretty rude.
It could have just been a "I'm a bit tired" sigh?

Anyway, you don't have to spend time with people who stress you out but I wouldn't pin a friendship on one sigh...

I couldn't let that drop if it's an ongoing thing. Maybe leave it this time but prepare exactly how you can confidently ask her the next time something like this happens. This time you don't accept oh nothing. It's good to go through these conversations in your head before you next meet up.

What an uncomfortable dynamic for you.

It's hard to say.

Has she sighed before while you were talking to her?

It's hard to know if the sighing was about you or just about how she's feeling at the moment. What were you talking about? Were you perhaps going on a bit about something that she could have found boring or a bit longwinded? We're all guilty of that at times! I wouldn't take it too personally unless it happens frequently.

A few times its happened now. She wasn't watching her DC at the time. I dont think it was anything like it was something she didn't agree with as it was just something general. She did seem a bit like irritated in general though today, not sure at what in particular, she was a bit snappy with her DC. but this sighing etc has happened on other days too. I sometimes have noticed eye rolls at times

There are people who spend all their time talking about their themselves and complaining about the same thing over and over, some people have no idea they are doing it so it could be this?

Is she sighing and rolling her eyes while you're talking? If so, that's pretty rude. I think I'd be tempted to say something like 'Sorry, am I boring you?'

We were out with the DC and I was just telling her about this event or something that was on, just general chit chat, I wasn't talking about myself so I don't think it was that. Not sure what it was. I would think just a bad day but it has happened before when ive been speaking so im not sure if its me

How do you verbally sigh?

Do you do most of the talking?

I don't know what I meant by that. Just a really obvious sigh basically.

I wouldn't say so, we both talk the same amount really

Yes this is what I would do too. If you're a bit reluctant to say it then say it with a smile so it's not too confrontational prehaps. It is rude of her though.

She sounds rude and passive aggressive. Sighing and rolling her eyes and denying it. If she does it again just fall silent and look at her quizzically. She can break the silence.