Selfish family members

[Wwyd2025]

This is probably a bit outting but never mind. I need some opinions.

My not elderly MIL recently moved house.
I helped her do all her moving forms it took months, I even did while grieving for a family member who passed away unexpectedly.

The problem I have is that while me & DH have moved her. She's been a bit awkward and claimed she can only do a hour a day of moving. She left the house full of things when we told her not too.

So we've been back & fourth for six weeks, as it was a LOT of stuff left.

She's due to return the keys this week coming and was unwell last weekend & now she's refusing to leave the house and help us.

Dhs sister came up supposedly to help, but she's done nothing in a whole week. She's moved a few things and then done nothing and buggered off home.

My child is extremely unwell and been in hospital. And now there's still a lot to do in the house including cleaning carpets etc. I'm the only one whom can drive & move the items from a to b.

AIBU to refuse to do it even though this means she'll loose her deposit?
Mil is making no attempt to do it. His sister made no attempt to do it. Me and DH are exhausted.
They know my child has been in hospital and isn't right yet it's still expected for me to help DH.

YANBU.

Step back and let someone else pick up the slack.

You've got Covid...

Come on, you know the answer to this. Remind them your child is ill and don't give them a second thought. Make it clear, now, that you aren't available as you are caring for your child. And you will not be available- so they need to solve this issue themselves. They can pay for a man with a van and a cleaner to clean the house.

Make this someone else’s problem, like her own children, you’re busy with yours.

This will only be your problem as long as you're making it so. Your MIL can only do an hour of moving each day? You're expected to help? Fine. Let her crack on and see how it goes. Let her and your DH know that you're unavailable, unfortunately, as your child is ill. If your MIL loses her deposit, so be it. That's not exactly your problem. It's not your responsibility to plan and execute the moving process for a perfectly healthy lady.

Not your problem to solve. Don’t be a martyr. Plus, she sounds unbearable.

She has adult children who can sort her out, or not.

Most importantly, your sick child, your time and your MH is your priority.

Why are you helping people who don't respect you or your child?

Your MIL is beyond selfish.

Focus on your child you've done more than enough.

This

Most people would use a professional removal company - they are not particularly expensive. MIL can also get a carpet cleaning service.

Your MIL needs to do what most people do when they move: pay a removal company to do the job...

Rather than think her family has all the time in the world to help her pack and move over several days.

Step back now and focus on your own issues.

It’s your Mils problem if she loses her deposit, not yours. You have already done more than your fair share and your child is your priority.

It's not your problem.

There has been plenty of time and it sounds like she couldn't be arsed to get it all done because of her hourly time slots. Losing the deposit is on her.