DP 's friends camping on our campsite

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DP, in his desire to 'help' and solve problems, has suggested to a friend of his (actually a friend of another friend) that he brings his family (DW and twin DS) to the campsite where we are going next week.
Friend (Bob) was due to travel abroad, but realised that DCs passports are out of date. My DP immediately rang him, saying it was a shame to lose their holiday etc and basically railroaded (imo) Bob into looking up the website while they were on the phone.
I have met the DW once. She is nice, but I'm looking forward to my family holiday with my DC, which is rare now they're 23 and 20. I wasn't expecting to factor in another family to our plans.
Quote from DP ' Bob and I can go cycling, and youve met Sally, she's nice'.
AIBU to want the holiday we've planned?

So basically your DP wants to spend his holiday cycling with a mate and expects you and your adult DCs to be ok with that. Personally I wouldn't bother going

He often goes cycling by himself and we do our own thing. I don't want to feel forced into doing something with another family because both dads are together.

God, I would be SOOOOOOOOOOO pissed off if my dh did that.
It reminds me of a thread on here, years ago, where the OP and family were going to France for a family holiday and (d)h arranged for one of his cycling mates to meet them there but to put his bike on their car's cycle rack (meaning there wasn't enough room for the family's bikes). He was planning on spending a large proportion of the holiday going off cycling with his mate whilst the OP looked after the kids.

Basically, yeah, Sally might be very pleasant but that doesn't mean you want to go on fucking HOLIDAY with her!!!

I'm hoping Sally is on here, posting from her pov!

Tell him to offer up your sleeping bag and tent as well, because you're not going.

I would be telling my husband to do one quite frankly if he had not consulted me. I would then be booking something else for myself and adult children using his credit card. Plus are their children still actual children because that changes the dynamic completely.

Whu is always men thay do this??
My dh invited his best mate and wife on my dream holiday years ago and they came..it was fine but l was absolutely livid with him.

I can see it now "let's go down to the beach together. Super, you can watch the twins while Sally has a swim, Bob and I are going for a beer"

Tbf, I don't know if Bob would be on board with that, I don't know them well enough.

I'd be unimpressed if my DH did this. You want a chilled out family holiday, doing as you please. Not having to make polite chit-chat with these people, and potentially having to include them in your plans. I bet Sally feels the same - a nice foreign holiday versus camping with people you don't know that well.

I'd be livid if I was railroaded into a completely different holiday without discussing it....

Like HELL would I accept having mere acquaintances foisted on my week long holiday.
Fuck off your dh. What a twat!

If Bob and Sally are nice people they're not going to want this either. If they're disorganised enough to book a foreign holiday without checking passports I'm not sure I would want to holiday with them!

Sounds fine, cba with all that 'livid' nonsense 🤷‍♀️

Sounds like all three of them have set you up as a babysitter for the twins.

Yep, you'll be de facto babysitter. Or at the very least spending a lot more time in the company of young twins than you would care to especially as your kids are adults. You'll also be expected to get on like a house on fire with Sally because, you know, you're both women. Has Bob paid for the holiday yet?

I don't know if he's paid, or even booked. One sentence I overheard DP say was 'yes, Lyme Regis is nice, I suppose, but our place is great".
I'm hoping that Bob books Lyme Regis...that's easily 2 hours from us!

I don't know if he's paid, or even booked. One sentence I overheard DP say was 'yes, Lyme Regis is nice, I suppose, but our place is great".
I'm hoping that Bob books Lyme Regis...that's easily 2 hours from us!

I'd wipe the floor, walls and ceiling with dh if he ever did this,

This is like something out of the Twilight Zone. Who even does something like this? Is your partner generally quite thick?

No way would I be going to help with someone's younglings when mine are grown while my husband fucks off with his mate.

I'd seriously tell him that if he's changed the holiday to a lads holiday then you hope he has fun and you and your kids can do something else if they decide not to go.

But it's not just men.
My SIL has form for doing this exact type of thing.

Not just holidays but also arranging get togethers (not always at her house) and then telling people they HAVE to be there, what time, what to bring etc.

I would suggest just meeting later in the day as “ you have plans”

No sorry course it's not just men - but no way l would do this.

Just get drunk all day. That way you can't babysit and you'll feel very happy about everything.

Slight update. Bob has booked the campsite for tomorrow, so we'll only overlap for a few days. I made it clear to DP that I didn't want to do any activities together, or end up babysitting, and tbf to him, he said 'oh no neither do I, we don't know them well enough. We might do drinks one evening.'
So panic over.
Thanks for the replies!