Friends not much effort?

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I don't know if I'm being stupid. I've stopped hrt and am really emotional and sensitive. It's my birthday. One of my friend started a WhatsApp group a few weeks ago there's four of us been friends for donkeys years. She has organised drinks at hers and then we are going out somewhere. This morning they are discussing where to go etc. none of them have said happy birthday to me and I feel a bit sad about it. Would you be the same or not bothered.

Yes a happy birthday would have been nice , but you are all out for drinks at hers then going out
wait and see , could be they will be wishing you happy birthday later today

Do you all normally wish one another a happy birthday? It's very easy to forget these things, especially if it's not something you all normally wish one another.

They definitely know its your birthday today?

They definitely do know

Wait until you see them. If they don't wish you happy birthday tell them it's your birthday. That's what I'd do.

Are the drinks tonight? I wouldn’t think to wish a friend happy birthday by text if I was going to see them in person anyway but if you’re not seeing them today then yanbu.

Wait until everyone wakes up a bit. Do they have children, it's easy to mean to send a message then get caught up with family life, especially if you are prepping to ditch said family, for a night out.

They have the date mixed up, or each is waiting for the other to post on the group because they aren’t sure of the date of your birthday. Happy Birthday and have a lovely day 😊

Maybe they will celebrate with you this evening and are waiting until then to wish you a happy birthday? I agree though that it would be nice for a few texts now though.

I turned 50 a few months ago and no friends remembered, let alone gave a card, except for best friend who remembered late that night and sent a text. It made me feel quite sad.

I'm part of a WA group of friends. There's about 15 of us. No one remembers anyone's birthday until there's a 'let's go out for a meal on X date because it's my birthday'.

Sometimes, we'll 'share' a birthday event (this month, there are four of us sharing') and I can guarantee no one will remember actual dates other than the shared one.

Don't be disheartened! Happy birthday to you!! Wear an 'it's my birthday' badge (I always do, I have no shame) and have a fabulous time with your friends. Remind them and expect to be bought lots of drinks later! 🎂🥳

Thank you everybody

I wouldn't read anything into this. My memory (late 40s) is shit, I'm busy, and birthdays even of very close friends/family are very easily forgotten in the midst of replying to whatsapps and juggling other things. Doesn't mean they don't value you as a friend. It's just a whastapp. You're seeing them in person later. Don't waste your birthday feeling sad about something on a phone. Treat yourself and then have fun with them later.

How’s ur evening going ?

Happy Birthday.

Id not rely on their remembering in the moment and if I wanted someone to say happy birthday id be organising something myself.

Its not unusual in my friendship groups to see someone reply to an invitation 'I'll bring a cake as it's my birthday' or even 'hey, that's my birthday, and one up for drinks that night.

Relying on other people to organise celebrations for you, as you would for a child, is in many different ways a recipe for heartache.