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Should I ring/ text my ex

30 replies

mumhas1syllable · 09/08/2024 23:10

He has ended the relationship on Monday but we are in a position of remaining to live together for another 3 months. We have managed to talk our emotions out and reach fair agreements and coexist together over the past couple of days. He requested I come back to the house this evening after work as he was making us tea. I came home to find his car gone. I rang and he is out drinking with a friend - I offered him a lift home later to which he accepted and said he wouldn’t be long, this was at 5:45. He has not contacted me or come home yet. Noteworthy; he is currently being advised to return to AA meetings and avoid such things. Do I text to see if he is ok or ring etc? I do not want to know if he is out “on the pull” and tbh the idea of him coming home in the morning after staying out will hurt me more than anything but do I need to stay in my lane and stay quiet or place boundaries?

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mumhas1syllable · 10/08/2024 14:36

@HowIrresponsible and expects his washing done and to share the food etc but doesn’t go shopping. Apparently he is skint but can go on benders…. 🙃
guess who is only stocking the mini fridge in her room from now on?! 🤣

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Olika · 10/08/2024 14:40

If I had to live with him for 3 months after break up I would do nothing for him. Absolutely no shopping, no cooking, no picking up, nothing. He can learn to provide and take care of himself.

CalicoPusscat · 10/08/2024 14:44

He can catch a taxi or the bus, surely?? You're not there to provide transport services!

mumhas1syllable · 10/08/2024 19:46

thank you all - you’ve been the support and affirmation I needed to prove the niggling reality in the back of my mind that I have basically taken on a controlling manchild and from now on he is no longer my responsibility. He can pot noodle and binge drink his way on his own trajectory. Lots of self care until I can leave and then it’s positive thinking and a girl house again with the only man I shall be moving forward with… his dog!

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Starlightstarbright3 · 10/08/2024 20:36

You are growing with every post op ..
🥳🥳🥳

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