To ask which age you would expect this to happen?

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To become very deaf, tire extremely easily and have trouble with memory.
Would you say early sixties is too young ?

80s

And yes, early 60s I'd expect there to be health issues behind those symptoms.

Any age is too young for that. Losing your hearing and cognitive abilities are not the natural effect of aging. It’s a sign of conditions which may be more common with older age. But it’s not “normal” or “expected” and shouldn’t be left unattended.

This person needs to go to their GP. There could be all sorts of reasons for those symptoms.

No. Everyone's different. Some people definitely would be starting to have those issues in their 60s.
I'm in my 50s and am falling to bits 😁, other people are fit as fiddles into their 80s. Luck of the draw.

No, early 60's isn't too early. My hearing has deteriorated, my memory is shot, and I find myself taking frequent naps, none of which I did 5 years ago, I turn 65 next week.

It entirely depends on lifestyle and generic.

My grandad died aged 96 of sound mind, flew planes and was very active physically and mentally. My gran died age 81 with dementia but before that was mentally very active. Started memory problems age 76.

I also know someone in their late 60s struggling with memory but they haven't done much to keep themselves physically and mentally active.

There are people with genetic issues that start having issues in their 40s.

So did you have all of this investigated?

Not the deafness, but the others came from Long Covid for me. Now I'm slowly recovering from that I have more energy.

It depends doesn't it. Dh is deaf and he is in his 40s. I tire easily sometimes because I have a chronic illness and have brain fog because I have a chronic illness(Im fit and healthy otherwise, run regularly, healthy bmi etc in case I get accused of not looking after myself).

Sometimes it's just the luck of the draw but I don't think it should just be accepted and old age and not looked into.

At early sixties I'd be expecting milder versions of these things to be starting not for it to be as bad as this sounds.

I'm 60. I lost my hearing in one ear ages ago (in my 40s) and yes, it's fully investigated. I work about 50-60 hours a week but rarely fall asleep in the daytime or take naps, although I go to bed around 9:30 (I am an early bird so I'm usually up between 5:00 and 6:00). However, my DH and lots of friends of a similar age regularly nap or fall asleep in their chair. It depends what we have been doing.
The thing that would worry me here is the memory loss. It's perfectly normal to forget a few things or for a specific word to escape you, but if you are much more forgetful than that it's a concern. Having said that, my best friend has a brain like a sieve and forgets everything. She's been like this for at least 40 years but it still worries me.

Have you had your ears checked? That could be easy to fix and being unable to hear is tiring in itself.

Not me. A relative who is refusing to get help.
Can't even have a conversation with her because she is so deaf which is highly depressing as thought these issues wouldn't occur for at least another 10 years or so. I would have sympathy if she seemed some treatment but she is burying her head in the sand as always.

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My Mum wears hearing aids in both ears and had a dementia diagnosis at 64.

Maybe they’re scared to go get checked out.
All of those things, especially if they’re moderate/ severe or started suddenly should ideally be checked out but if they don’t want to, I don’t know if there’s much you can do.

My dad's losing his hearing (happens to all the men in his family as they get older) in his early 60s but his memory's fine and he's very energetic (gardens at the weekend and cycles to work).

The BBC recently published an article which had hearing loss in midlife being a risk for dementia. Your relative should definitely get her hearing looked at - lots of high street opticians offer hearing tests if she doesn’t want to go to the GP.

www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c84jdxd4x1ro

I would say, this person should be investigated for hypothyroidism as it can cause all three of those symptoms!

She is outright refusing to seek any form of help.
It's got to the point where I avoid having conversations with her as it's just soul destroying when she can't hear a bloody word.
I know about the dementia link as well and wouldn't be surprised if she actually also had that.
You can't help someone who refuses to be helped but it's draining as anything.

No I wouldn't say it's normal. I'm 62 and most my friends are between 58-67. None are hard of hearing or having problems with their memory. Maybe not as fit as before but not markedly different.

Not normal at all for that age, no - especially if it has all come on quite quickly together.

Is it possible the deafness is exacerbated by a load of earwax? DH goes as deaf as a post sometimes and has to go to be unclogged.

My mum's hearing started to deteriorate when she was in her very late 80s and she began to develop memory problems when she was 92. My mother in law was about 85 when she first developed dementia, and it progressed very quickly.

I’m in my 60s and know a couple of friends of nearly 70 who have hearing aids and another two who have husbands with early stage dementia at early 70s but for one person to tire easily, have memory loss and deafness all at once in early 60s is not common and should be checked for underlying health concerns. Those aren’t a normal pattern of aging.