Has anyone here ever had couples therapy?

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Did you find it useful?

My husband and I love each other very much but are really struggling atm as we have very different communication styles and standards. Also due to working hours we rarely see each other. Throw in the stress of children too and things aren’t as rosy as they should be.

How many sessions did you need and would you recommend it?

Haven't myself but know of two couples who have and they were open about it. In their cases it was helpful and they are still together. It was in recent years. One of my work friends had 8 or so sessions with her husband for similar reasons to you. They are still working on things.

I agreed to go to show dh I was done.... A man in socks and sandals said I had hang ups about sex. I catagorically do not. I just had no intention of sleeping with a twat again.

Wasn't for me at all.

My husband and I went about 14 years ago in our second year together. It was a fish or cut bait situation but I couldn't talk to him without him getting defensive. The counselling gave us space to talk AND listen. We had 3 sessions and we have made a concerted effort to carry that communication style since.

Well it saved my marriage - and not necessarily in the way you'd think. We both hated our therapist who was convinced we should split.
We didn't and (nine times out of 10) are a team that makes things work in our strange little world.

Did two sessions and walked away. I found it an appalling experience - because DH is the dominant talker, she let him have the floor and basically told me I needed to listen to him more.

Fuck that.

I went with stbxh, obviously we ended up splitting but that was unexpected and totally unrelated.

We had about 8 sessions, our therapist was really lovely while direct and gave us lots of practical tools we could do to improve our communication and prioritise each other more. Our situation at the time was similar, we were struggling to communicate in a healthy way and spent no time together outside of ds so it did resolve that. I would still absolutely recommend it but you both need to be on the same page in terms of giving it a fair try and committing to being honest and having the hard conversations.

Best thing we've done for our relationship. When moving in together we realised how different we were. It was a car crash.

Like you, our communication styles were so different. Couples therapy enabled us to find healthy ways of communicating. I felt heard for the first time in months. It's given us the tools to work towards more consistent good times!

Definitely recommended. Have a few free taster sessions first with different therapist to find which one you click with most