Pregnancy and moving across the country

[budsandpink]

Over the next few months, DH and I want to start trying to conceive. Next summer, we also want to sell our house and move to the other side of the country for work, and to be in a better place to raise a family.

I’m getting intensely stressed at the thought of viewing properties over 300 miles away whilst pregnant. We know a few people who we could maybe stay with for a weekend while we view properties, but no one we could spend a solid month with while we look.

I feel overwhelmed at the thought of being so unsettled during pregnancy and worried about the impact it could have on the baby.

I know if we wait until the baby is born, it will only get harder to view properties so far away.

Is this a terrible idea? Has anyone done this and can offer advice/reassurance?

Why not get the move done before TTC? Either by delaying trying or moving earlier?

My baby is 4 months old now but I honestly would not have wanted to do this when I was pregnant. First trimester I was exhausted and sick so couldn’t have been bothered with the hassle, second trimester was better but second trimester I was decorating the nursery, buying and putting furniture together etc, third trimester I was fat sore and shattered. Getting off the sofa was an achievement nevermind orchestrating viewings and a house move so far away.

The less stress the better during pregnancy, for you and your baby. Also think about your antenatal appointments.

Renting temporarily might be a better option: until you both have jobs, know a bit more about which areas are best for those jobs transport wise, have had a proper opportunity to get a feel for different parts etc, which a month “on holiday” doesn’t really give you, jumping in and making a commitment to somewhere by buying could end up in you making the wrong decision. You don’t need to pick somewhere “perfect” for a rental you aren’t planning to be in very long.

Depending your age, I'd try and get the move done first. Can you get a rental property in the new area, as will be far easier to house hunt then, also much easier to get quick viewings and scope out good areas. Remember conceiving and staying pregnant is not always guaranteed or straightforward, I had a miscarriage the week after we bought a new house and it really didn't help. Also be much nicer to move first, so you can then hopefully meet new people in the new location.

Done it pregnant
Done it with a newborn
Moved 500 miles away with 3 kids and a newborn
It happens
Get on with it

It be easier now and when baby is 3 months and under than with a crawling 7 month old trying to get everywhere!