Silly dream but DP is worried I am subconsciously thinking he will cheat on me

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I had a very funny dream about DP. I told him about it when I woke up and was laughing about it being absurd and so vivid and detailed. DP doesn’t really dream much but I have all kinds of crazy vivid ones and I enjoy them.

It was funny as my DP just isn’t like this at all and I have never had a real life worry about this ever happening. DP is not a ladies man by any stretch and found dating after his divorce to be nerve wracking, he couldn’t handle multiple women 😂. I’m not jealous, he has loads of female friends and I have never even thought about snooping on him or given me any reason to consider it.

In my dream DP decided he wanted to be polyamorous and got another girlfriend. He didn’t think I would mind. 😂. It was silly, and in the dream I did mind.

When I told him DP then started quizzing me about whether I am having doubts about our relationship, and if I was subconsciously worrying he might leave me! He was proper worried about it.

I am just not going to tell him about any more of my stupid dreams obviously but why is he taking this so seriously?

is it not the done etiquette to tell the villain of your dreams all of their imaginary wrongdoings 😂

Well I'm quite a believer that when I have a vivid dream then something has happened to spark that dream. That my subconscious thoughts have inspired me to dream that dream. So I usually rack my brains to see if I can pin point something that's happened, something I'm worrying about etc that has caused me to dream what I have.
So actually I can understand your DP wondering about why you should be dreaming such a dream if polyamory isn't something you would normally be thinking about.

Maybe he's been on mumsnet and has seen all the threads where a woman is told "Well, he must be doing something to make you suspect" when she has a dream about her partner cheating!

I have ridiculously insane stress dreams all the time and so does my brother (think it's a mix of how we're wired/some stress we got exposed to).

My DH is genuinely amazing, I think the world of him as do all my friends and family and he does so much for me (literally almost everything now I'm pregnant). It's a running joke between us about the horrible dreams I've had about him that have nothing to with real life, though I have had to emphasise I think it's just how my brain works and it's taking the most important thing to me and going "imagine if it was ruined".

Similarly I have had lots of dreams where I have ruined my relationship (one about 6 weeks ago where I "realised" I had cheated on him - with my worst ex, didn't tell him that part 🤢😥 - and that our baby wasn't his!) or that I've murdered someone and am on the run.

I think it's bollocks that dreams are somehow based on reality in the slightest but I can see fears being worked through in dreams like the "imagine you ruined your life" fear! We just joke about them now.