After 30 years of marriage, I have to face that I simply cannot take any more from my husband. No point going into why the real question is why I've tolerated him so long, but I think I just couldn't face how stupid I've been in not leaving him after the first year. I'm 59, he forced me out of work at 34 because he always insisted his career come first and that involved moving country repeatedly. I wanted a stable background for our children (both over 18 now, but the younger one has SEN including ASD and will never live independently). For the past 10 years I have also been bogged down looking after not one but both my parents who both separately died of dementia in the past six months, so I have just plain avoided facing this extra stress.
There should be a reasonable amount of money, not Fiona Shackleton for Paul McCartney levels but enough if we both downsize to flats. But he's an accountant and has form for hiding money. As I say, our younger son will never be able to live independently. I am 59 and (at my husband's insistence) haven't worked for 25 years. Obviously I have a claim on assets but does anyone know if I’m likely to get any maintenance for myself, and child support for our disabled son? Anyone recommend a good lawyer in London?