To think this is cheeky?

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I’m currently on the train in Europe with family. My husband isn’t feeling well, with a cold.

We have 5 reserved seat tickets. 4 around a table and a window seat behind. We have a lot of hand luggage and food as there’s no catering in the train. We have an extra ticket as a family member isn’t now travelling with us.

So three of us are around a table and my husband sits at the window seat behind so he can sleep. Then the guy next to him asks him if he can swap with his wife 10 rows back at an aisle seat so they can sit together. So my husband feeling unwell and generally a nice considerate person moves. And so we’re all scrunched up at our 4 and I have no leg room. I say this so he is grumpy and goes and sits at the women’s seat 10 rows back (aisle). Now all the kids are pissed off at me for being annoyed. But it’s a 6 hour journey! I just think it’s bloody cheeky asking someone to move from their window seat right behind their family just because you’re not next to your wife. Urghhhhj 😡

I’m now taking a breather outside between the carriages because I’m fuming. Also not had my breakfast and have only had 4 hours sleep. Annoyed that I’m annoyed and that my kids think I’m horrible. I did offer to go back and sit in the other aisle seat.

Be glad it’s a European service. If it was a uk train I doubt any of you would be sat together

Nothing wrong with asking (politely) if you have some reason like this guy did. Not a big deal at all.

How old are your Children (as do you need to entertain them). Just go and sit in this ladies seat and let your husband have the two seats round the table to himself to stretch out a bit more.

Not sure why you are cross about it tbh.

The person is allowed to ask, but your husband could easily have said no....so it's not cheeky at all that the couple are in those seats. You're cheeky expecting so.mich room for a short 6 hour train journey. The rule here in the UK is if noone is sitting in reserved seats then anyone can sit in them so if someone gets on a station and it's available then that can happen.

I hated long journeys on European trains until we started booking first class (not the top one which is business class). It's not that much more expensive, much cheaper than UK first class, and there's so much more space and leg room it's more than worth it when you have a lot of stuff because you're travelling.

That's not how it works in a lot of countries though, for example in Italy you have to book a specific seat, and they don't oversell like they do in the UK so literally everyone has a seat.

When you apologise to your hubby, perhaps ask him his opinion of where he would like to sit as well. It sounds like he has tried to be helpful to someone, then be told that his cramping your space. Ask him if he'd prefer to be left alone or would he like to join at the table. If he has had the same lack of sleep, hangry, but also has a yucky cold, then he may appreciate feeling wanted in the family unit and of course the way to a mans' heart is through his stomach.

I agree with others.

Husband could easily have said no and explained.

Although the man might then have felt a bit like he didn’t want to sit with someone with a cold!

I think a bit YABU - you had booked to be four around the table and I would have thought that sitting together was the default.

Yes we don’t know the form for the country OP is in.

But I agree if it was in the Uk, OP couldn’t have held on to the extra table seat if someone else had got on and wanted to sit there - once the station it’s reserved from has passed, it anyone’s seat.

Jesus you sound like hard work. So you’re so demanding to have extra space (which you wouldn’t have had had the extra family member come along) that you’d rather your husband sat on his own 10 rows back?

You might be hangry but that’s no excuse to behave like this. Recognise it, understand the cause of your outburst and then apologise to your husband because this isn’t his fault. You’re a fully grown adult and said yourself you have lots of food with you. Eat some of it and stop being a diva.

I feel you. Someone did this to us when we were boarding a plane, sorting all our stuff etc, turn back round to find someone had told my DSS he was swapping with him which meant shoving him in a middle seat instead of an aisle as they obviously hadn't bothered to book seats together. I'd deliberately booked aisle seats each for my mother in law and DSS because he is 6 foot and she needs to be able to get up and move. I was mad about it for ages but my DH shushed me and said to leave it. Grrr! People should just be organised and if they're not then tough! (I know that's not kind and I would move for people with kids or whatever but these were two grown adults).

Husband was sleeping and unwell anyway, what difference does it make if he moved seats