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To think he really isn’t into me

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Boredlord129 · 09/08/2024 02:40

I recently met a man on a work trip. We have spoken every day for the past few months. I am back in his country and we agreed to spend time t together. He had a few days off work he stayed with me.

His home is around an hours drive away. He’s had to work again, but he said it would be nice if I joined him at his home to spend the last few days together. I agreed and said I would make my way over once he let me know he finished work. I waited pretty much all day to hear from him, he never let me know he finished work. When I asked him when he finished it was much later than he had originally said.

He never messaged me to say he had finished and replied to my message to say he had just gotten home. That to me isn’t a man trying to make the most of our time together. Would I be unreasonable to text him to say I enjoyed our time but I’d like to leave things here

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Waterboatlass · 09/08/2024 13:46

I'd have expected you to have your own plans for the visit in general and to come over when I had finished work and your plans had wrapped up in these circs, not be holding me to a time.

Ok it was a bit rude if he wasn't in touch until very late (impression I got) but if it was still a reasonable time, he may have wanted to unwind a bit between working late and hosting a casual fling.

OP, I don't think it was the kind of situation where he would be champing at the bit to see you then moment he could escape from work or was anxious to keep you posted. He probably likes your company but was keeping any expectations etc in check.

Lilliesandjasmine · 09/08/2024 15:32

Are you the woman who was getting with the much younger guy from Morocco or somewhere like that?

Wishimaywishimight · 09/08/2024 15:37

You might want him to want to spend more time with you but you can't make it happen. He is clearly not as interested as you are. He may have enjoyed a few days with you but doesn't particularly want any more.

No big 'break up' needed. Just match his energy and stop texting, go and enjoy your remaining days and if he bothers to get in touch tell him you've made plans for the rest of the visit.

It's not likely to develop into much of a relationship anyway so I really wouldn't put too much energy into it.

usernother · 09/08/2024 15:39

He's not into you, so why bother sending him a text. You'd be doing it to try and get a reaction from him. Pointless.

Mzbyr · 10/05/2025 08:03

He wanted a booty call , girl you deserve so much more listen to your gut he’s either keeping you off balance so you become hooked on his attention. Leave it now you don’t deserve to be kept hanging on for a booty call. You got this be strong x

healthybychristmas · 10/05/2025 11:44

I hope you didn't go round to his house after all that!

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