Close friend forgets my Birthday

[Chitterchatter48]

I have a close friend, who for the last 2 years has forgotten my Birthday. We've always got each other a little something on our Birthdays over the years, a token gift and card. My Bday is coming up again in a few days. I spoke to her the other day and she didn't mention anything, which makes me think she's forgotten again. I always go out of my way to do nice things on her Birthday, nothing expensive or fancy, but always thoughtful and things I think she would like.
I'm not expecting a gift or being grabby, but a card or just a text wishing me a nice day would be nice 💁‍♀️
I know I'll be hurt on my Birthday if she's forgotten again. She tends to remember only when seeing people wish me a happy birthday on social media.
It makes me sad, because we are great friends.
I see she remembers other friends Birthdays on social media, having meals out etc.
Am I right to feel a bit sad she forgets mine or am I being silly?

Petty or what!

I removed my birthday from socials as ppl should be able to acknowledge it without a reminder, even some of my close friends don’t remember. Birthday don’t always seem that exciting once you have grown up presents opened in 5 minutes and then off to work for the day 😂

That's really passive aggressive

I do not care about birthdays at all. My mil really does so I make an effort for her. But I would rather nobody knew my bday to be honest. Not afraid of getting older I just don't think it's a special day. Like New years, could not care less. Obviously all children's birthdays are important because one year older means alot when you are young atleast until you are in your twenties.

My Bday is coming up again in a few days. I spoke to her the other day and she didn't mention anything,

Did you ?

I mean, it seems like you are already suspecting she won't remember, which means you know you will feel sad, but rather than dropping it into the conversation so that it will help her remember, you'd rather play games and hope to 'test her'. Which seems an odd relationship to have with a friend.

Honestly, I try and remember but life sometimes gets in the way, and I suspect most people are this way. I was in a whirlwind of chaos last week and overlooked my best friend's birthday. I realised once the weekend came and my brain had a moment to breathe and messaged her.

Different people and brains and personality types!!

my husband always knows my birthday, but will plan Jack shit. I have to check his drivers liscence EVERY YEAR for the day, because I have the wrong one stuck in my head. But always plan something.

i wouldn’t be offended. If that’s more her personality type.

Just remind her. Say it’s my birthday on x and I’m planning on doing x. Little prompt.

it’s got nothing to do with your relationship- she’s likely terrible at life admin.

I don't expect anyone other than my family to remember my birthday. And I've accumulated so many friends, colleagues and acquaintances over my five decades of adulthood, I'd be doing nothing but sending birthday cards if I marked them all. And no, I don't even remember my oldest friends' birthdays and they don't mark mine.

I love celebrating family birthdays and I love when they celebrate mine. But that's enough for me, and apparently for my friends too.

I had a milestone birthday this year 2 weeks after my best friend. I spent approx £60 on her, thoughtful presents and personalised card nice wrapping bags etc. Quite obvious what I bought wasn't just a token gift and had been bought specially.

I didn't even get a card. I did get a FB post though!

It's totally changed how I feel about her tbh.

“I see she remembers other friends Birthdays on social media, having meals out etc.”

Have you invited her out for a meal to celebrate your birthday?

That's awful 🙁