How to change ?

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I’m always getting the short end of the stick in relationships (I’m talking about all sorts of relationships, family, friends, etc). I feel like I am always very invested in people, but people are not as invested as I am. Maybe I just feel a lot, I feel too intensely and most people have “normal” ways if feeling? Maybe I’m not that great of a person and not worth investing too much into? Honestly I don’t know. I think from now on I’ll try to care less, seems easier

The amount of energy others have to invest in relationships is nothing to do with you and everything to do with them.

Everyone has their level of the demands they can take in their life and for many friendship, or at least deep and meaningful friendship is the first thing to go. Even something is seemingly simple as responding to a text is just another demand and on top of work, running a house, caring responsibilities, maintaining other relationships can just be too much

How is it that you are over investing?
What have you got going on in your life to keep you busy?
What have they got going on in their lives?
What are your expectations of these relationships?