Self improvement can I do it?

[the7Vabo]

Today I ate: a pain au chocolat ( big one, fancy bakery), a galaxy bar and a bag of penny sweets, a Cadbury’s caramel bar and a box of smarties. (I also ate meals, I’m focusing on sugar intake),

I spent an unhealthy amount of time on Tic Tox, the latest app in my phone addiction (day off work).

My oldest DS6 lost his first tooth. I feel so sentimental!! It’s just going too fast! The emotion of every milestones slipping by feels huge at times.

I’m awake now because of work stress. Longer story!

For as long as can remember I have craved sugar, not exercised (was never good at sports either), can cram for exams and do well and work projects to a lesser extent, but struggle day-to-day. Around 2010 I also added a smartphone addiction.

Im now early 40s, two kids (6&4), not a great cook, I can get by but sometimes just eat toast, house is not filthy but a mess and full of things I’ll do tomorrow. Admin is similar to house. Work performance is just ok, I often feel I don’t/can’t prioritise it enough energy wise. I miss kids while in work, I worry about work when with kids.

Is there any hope of self
improvement?! Everytime I try I feel my lack for energy/motivation kicks in and I retreat to bed/couch.

YABU - no
YANBU - yes

any tips welcome please

I found that a milkshake diet helped reset my eating and cravings. I started to get symptoms of diabetes etc and it scared me enough to keep health in mind when eating.

Seems like you're on a constant sugar high or sugar crash which lets face it is gonna make you feel like shit so you're not going to be motivated to do anything. Try cutting out the sugar, though probably cut down first if you have that much.

Thanks for replies. Recently I’ve been waking up in the mornings craving sugar which feels new. What I imagine an alcoholic feels like craving a drink (not too make light of alcohol addiction, I’m counting my blessing on that one).

Maybe it would be worth seeing your GP and getting some blood tests done if the sugar cravings are a new thing

As well as reducing sugar add in a vitamin D and a B vitamin complex. My energy levels and sugar cravings were hugely improved once I started these. Will take a couple of weeks to fully kick in. I just purchased mine on Amazon.
With regard to the jobs give your self a “ busy” 15 minutes each day and see what household jobs you can whizz around and do in that time,

Thanks so much. I’ve been meaning to try B complex and be more consistent at taking Vit D.
I also take fish oils and iron.

I’ve had bloods done and taking iron as results. My sugars were ok which given the amount of it I ingest I was surprised at. I assume I won’t get away with it forever.

I’d recommend you start your day with some protein - plain Greek yoghurt with berries and/or eggs (scrambled poached or whatever) with whole meal toast. Protein will fill you up and help prevent bad food choices later in the day.
get rid of sugary stuff in your house.
try and build a good routine starting with small stuff (get up, get showered, make bed, have a good breakfast, put washing on etc) and then add to it.
try to make a meal plan for next couple days and maybe batch cook a couple of easy dinners so you don’t have to do too much tomorrow
a good start to the day makes the rest of the day go better in my experience.

Let chill guy clicker enrich your life. Click, gather points, and enjoy those well-deserved relaxing moments!

You need to get some exercise into your life, and being shit at sport 30 years ago has no bearing on what your body is can do now

Try a few different yoga classes with different teachers. There is such a variety of types of class and teacher, there may be one you like. Yoga (not just the physical but also the breath and meditation, and the philosophy) can be very useful when trying to make lasting changes.

High protein and fiber diet will make you feel fuller and healthier. If you want to lose weight maybe intermittent fasting added in there too…

Some sort of exercise. Couch 2 5k if you can face it. Or a 20 minute (or whatever) walk a day with audio book/ music, join a thing for yourself…. We have local sport team that also weighs im weekly- something like that?

Reckon if you start with the healthier eating and some sort of exercise you’ll get so much more energy and feel better able to tackle the other stuff.