To say get a life, it’s a song and she can sing it you bore?

[TipsyPoet]

DD (4) goes to a swimming lesson with paid helper taking her there and meeting me after 40 minutes to take over. I pay for this.

It’s because my disabled DC has a session near that time and I can’t be in two places at once.

Anyway, my DD doesn’t use functional language and struggled quite a bit with communication. But she is a gestalt language processor and sings a lot of things because she likes the feel of it or it sounds interesting

She keeps singing ‘We’re Lelli Kelly, the curse shoes. Oh yeah! We’re Lelli Kelly, we are so cute. Oh yeah!’

Her helper keeps on telling her to stop it now when she hears her. I let it go but pulled her up on it when DD was handed over and her helper said to me ‘she really needs to stop singing that’

i said why? She said because it’s awful, so ridiculously silly and makes girls look like sparkly obsessed crazies

I was taken aback and so I said there’s really nothing that bad about it, it’s a little girl’s shoe advert.

She said ‘No. And she keeps repeating the line ‘They are so cool oh yeah, you can’t play with us!’

I said so? That’s in the advert. She just sort of rolled her eyes and left it there

I am going to have to make alternative arrangements but does anyone really have an object to the song? It’s a cute little advert for little girls. It is completely inoffensive.

For money, not out of the goodness of her own heart.

And whatever happens, please make sure you are honest about your daughter's needs with the new babysitter.
It wouldn't be for everyone.

I've just noticed the OP has referred to the helper as 'you bore' in the title.

This is not covering you in glory

If you keep on treating people the way you do you will soon run out of help

It sounds like this is the outward sign that the relationship between the two of you has run its course. Your DD needs a different type of care, and this current lady isn't the right person. I too would find the constant repetition of a stupid song extremely irritating, but you need someone who doesn't. You clearly don't like her, and she sounds fed up with the job, so time to move on.

Sorry this has happened to your daughter.
My son is a gesalt language processor too. Whilst he can sing 1 song over and over..... and over again he also seems to home in on parts of some songs relating to how he's feeling for example he can't cope well in clinical places so seeing a gp he will sing were going on a bear hunt which he does almost all the time but he only says the bit where they find the bear so the gp closes the door and we sit down and then over and over it's "oh no it's a bear!! Back through the forest, water, grass, mud" in super fast speed aswell as struggling and wanting to leave..... once we leave the gp room it's "back to the house, shut the door, up the stairs, under the covers, we're safe now"
He uses the part of the song that's the "scary" part to express that he's scared and the relief to be out of there he's "safe now"

I can only guess your daughter may do the similar. So you can't sit with us? It's her and her worker doing something just them two and just because it's them two until you arrive she is possibly excited about that or enjoys being with her worker. The people telling you to tell her not to say that bit 🙄 hearing your daughter communicate must be amazing for you and there's no malice in it. I ovv don't know you or dd but I'd never ask my little gesalt language processor to stop saying anything.... he's got no understanding anyway unless it'd one word sometimes because he can't process it so I could say stop but to him that would mean stop singing and I just couldn't ever.

I hope she keeps singing her little jingle and you find someone new and understanding soon she deserves to be understood and appreciated.

Just because someone gets paid for something, doesn’t mean they help any less.

Nurses and carers get paid, they still do the job because they care.

Her doing this helps OP out and allows DD to go swimming, which she wouldn’t be able to do else.

Well aren't You a dream !

In my experience, it’s generally the bullies who are not liked very much – it just doesn’t look that way because nobody wants to risk being their next victim.