What age would consider someone to be a young mum?

[Himitsu]

Not including teen parents, as that’s a separate category.

Someone referred to me as a young mum today and I was like eh? I’m 30! I’d consider 20 to maybe 23-24 to be a young mum. Just curious what others feel! I had my first at 20 and definitely felt young then!

Under 25.

I had my eldest at 23 and definitely felt (too) young to be a Mum, though I would never have admitted that. Not helped by the whole thing being the result of contraceptive failure in a relatively new relationship, while I was still a medical student, and my Mum reacting as though I was 14 when I told her.

I'm now 34, expecting my 3rd, and feel much too old😂- keep having to remind myself that most of my school and uni friends have only just started thinking about babies!

I would say a young mum is a woman with young kids

I think it depends on the individual and what their aspirations are

I'd say under 30. But depends on social groups I think. My friend was first to have a baby at 26 and I thought it was just insanely young, but I wonder if that's because we'd all been at university until only a few years prior. I'm 33 expecting my first and I feel average age in the parents to be we've met locally, but we do live in an affluent south east town. Statistically now it's more common to have your first child when you're over 30, than under 30.

@Himitsu 30 is not a young mum 😂😂 I think it’s just something someone says. I remember that when Meghan and harry had their babies , I read a lot of people calling them “young parents”. A friend of mine recently had an issue at work and she has a baby , in her words she was saying “they are just trying to bully me as they know I’ve had a baby and as a youngish mum I’m vulnerable “ or something like that but she definitely mentioned that she was a young mum , she’s 38.. She also wasn’t referring to the child’s age.

Young mum means young kids imo.

No that's actually how many people describe mum's with 0-3 year olds.
I'd say under 23.

Under 30

Anyone under 40 is young to me these days 🤣😆 but I'd consider a young mum as anyone under 25. It was any women under 20 in my mums day.

Under 25. Although I was 26 when I had my first and felt young. I had my second at 28 and all of a sudden it felt like a lot of the mum's I knew were all older than me.
I had my 3rd when I was 40. I'm one of the older mums now!

Same here, elderly felt quite a hard description at 29. Most of my friends children were already school age by then though

Under 30. Although probably more like 35 where I live.

These days anyone under 30 😀but my experience is London where most of my peer group were in rented accommodation, a long way from family and starting out on their careers. Having a child in your 20's would have been a death knell to career progression and childcare/housing completely unaffordable.

Under 25

Maybe they called you a young mum because you have a 10 year old?

So I've learnt! 😀

I'd say early 20s

I had my older kids between ages of 19 and 24, was youngest at weigh in clinics, avoided play groups as everyone was a lot older, was def look down upon.

My little suprise that we had later in life and wasn't planned at all but such a blessing makes me feel like a geriatric mum, I'm 45 . they are so young these days at school gates.

I would say under 20. I was 34 when I got pregnant and was very much classed as an older mum at that time. With one exception, all of my friends had their children in their late teens or early/mid 20s.

I’d say under 25. I had my eldest DD at 21 which felt really young, second DD at 24 which also felt young but I felt less judged. My final DS was born when I’d just turned 32 and I felt I was treated like a geriatric by medical professionals!

Under 25 is ‘young to have a baby’ but a ‘young mum’ would be like a teen mum to me, which is under 20.

Having babies
I’d say 18 - 21 is young mum
Over 30 would be older mum
And the bit in the middle would be where most start out

Midwife told me I was an older mum when pregnant at 30. I certainly didn’t feel it but I did by the time they were teens - and fast approaching 50 I felt very old.

I've never heard anyone call anyone with a young child a young mum - a young mum is deffo about the mum's age.

I disagree. I was constantly called a 'young Mum' by older people when I had young children but I was in my late 30s/early 40s when I had them so not young to be a parent by any standards.

I would consider anyone under 30 to be young when they had kids but really only consider those under 25 as 'too young'. But my Mum had me at 24 in the 1970s and was considered pretty old to be having a first child so these things change (1970s had the youngest average age to have DC, it dropped steadily from the 1940s to the 1970s then started increasing again). And of course it's linked to class and educational level these days so you might live in an area where Mums at the school gate are in their 20s or an area where they are in their 40s which would affect what you considered young.

When I had my first at 21 I was considered young. with my second and third in a different area i was considered old at mid to late 30s. There are lots of kids in my youngest's class with grandparents my age. They did some work on how things were different in the past using pictures from the 1970s and early 80s for "when your grandparents were your age". One of his grandparents was an evacuee in WW2!

Back when I had dd (28yrs ago) I would've said under 20. From doing school pick ups there are a couple of what I would say are young mums (early 20s) the rest I can't tell their age (30s-40s seems average). It's just a sea of sambas and sunglasses. The 30/40 mums to me look younger than the 30/40 age group we considered older 30 yrs ago.