To want a third child?

[Tessatroc24]

So I'm here for honest opinions 😊

I have 2 children (boys) age 3 and 7. They're awesome. Miscarriaged a few times after first child but with the help of medication, successfully had second child. Married, a successful career which I really love and 4 bedrooms at home.

Am I being unreasonable to try for a third child? I just have this urge to have another. However my worries are:

• is 2 company and 3 a Crowd?
• Will I have enough energy and time for my current children? I don't want to add another child at their expense.
• are work judgemental if I go on maternity leave for a third time? Also I do love my job.
• Is everything not suitable for families of 5 such as holidays etc.
• I've heard of families who actually regret having a third. Family have also said don't do it (though we never ask for help babysitting etc so it's not that it would be on them at all)
• does 3 children mean a bigger car?? Everyone seems to say it does.

Just any thoughts or advise or experiences would be helpful too.

You are right in what you say. My husband and I have absolutely love having children and they are our life. When not at work, all our energy and time is just spent with them exploring, walking, playing. I just felt that I don't feel that part of my life is over (having babies) but I am very conscious that having another could potentially impact my current and that doesn't sit well with me. Ultimately these two come first. But I'm sure children get a hell of a lot of benefit from siblings (that outweighs some potential things such as less finances for one child).

I can imagine it's a lot. I was one of 4 growing up so can appreciate the chaos! I think we have a fairly good sized house so no concerns there, it has 4 beds and 3 reception rooms and plenty of garden space so feel very blessed in that.

I have a normal 5 seater car however my husband does have a 7 seater (but it's on the verge of needing replacing so would need to make sure new one has 7 seats I think).

I'm sure it is wonderful chaos 😊

Interestingly, 80% think I'm being unreasonable so maybe I need to have a serious think 🤣

As one of 3, these threads upset me so much! I would never wish my parents didn't have my little sister so they had more time/attention/holidays etc for me! I absolutely love my sis & we are best of friends now as adults. Couldn't give a monkeys if we could've stayed in nicer hotels or had more 1-1 time with parents.

Yes, there were challenges finding activities all of us wanted to do - particularly thinking of holidays (6 years between oldest & youngest) but my parents used it as a "dad will take X to do this, mum takes Y&Z to do that, meet for lunch" kind of thing so it actually allowed for a lot of 1-1 time too.

I totally understand people who want to stop at 2, but am surprised by the materialism / focus of some. Family is about love & spending time together, who cares if the car is a bit of a squish for a couple of years?!