To feel sad I can’t have another child (biologically) even though I didn’t want another one in the first place?

[ThemysteriousH]

Long story short:
Just started treatment for a medical induced menopause that’s needed.
I’m 32.

I have 2 DS (11&8) and a lone parent and never wanted anymore children for a number of reasons.
But now of all a sudden I’m broody :/

Is it the choice being taken away, or are you suddenly getting a load of last chance hormones? Both are usual. Just think if all the cons and in ten years time you'll only be 42 and free.

I think it’s probably a bit of both, I’m not a crier and I’ve been crying over it.
My mood swings are wild!

I went through early menopause and even though I definitely didn't want any more children, I was gutted that the choice had been taken away from me. I was quite emotional for a while but it did pass.

On the upside........no more periods.

It's one thing to know you don't want more children, another to know you don't have the option. It's quite okay to grieve the end of that possibility.

When I opened this I didn’t know it was going to be about menopause but I was going to mention mine in response to the thread title.

I didn’t want children but when I was diagnosed with early menopause (at 38 but after a 2 year fight to be taken seriously and now I realise started somewhere around 34-35] it triggered something similar in me. It wasn’t that I wanted children but I felt very suddenly that my choices had been taken away.

Not just about the choice to have children but I had without warning been chucked into a completely different era of my life which I didn’t think would be something I even had to think about for another decade.

im really sorry you are going through this and I hope whatever medical thing that is going on that triggered this for you works out ok.

im sure this will pass for you though. I’m still fully in the trying to deal with the symptoms stage although hrt has taken away so of the severity of some of them. but mentally things have settled because this is my normal now.

the crying will also likely settle if you are able to get on top of regulating the hormones, I obviously don’t know your circumstances so don’t know if hrt is an option for you.

My dad had a wife and kids who became adults, then married someone else who was early 30s. She's lovely but my dad couldn't have kids even if she wanted to, he had had a family and then didn't went more kids and couldn't either.... now I'm older I hate that the opportunity for a family was taken away for her. X