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Is this treating ds 21 months badly?

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Hmmwhaty · 05/08/2024 21:25

I’m really exhausted and worried I am treating ds badly. He’s started being very difficult at bedtime and so I do the usually hug and sing a song but then put him down and he will resist. I’ve started just leaving the room. Around 3-5 mins later he has gone to sleep after some mild crying and frustration.

In the mornings I try to get up before him so I can sort things for the day and sometimes he will wake and I can hear him on the monitor but I will be carrying washing from the dryer or mid way through cleaning his bottle etc and so I don’t go up for 5 mins and he will be crying on and off, again mildly but still obviously wanting me. Should I be going to him immediately? What’s ok and what’s not? I feel tired and worried I am being a shit mum.

(single parent so nobody to step in for me)

OP posts:
Peonies12 · 06/08/2024 11:33

Totally fine! We do this in a 2 parent household, and have since toddler was a baby. It’s good for DS to fall asleep on their own, he’s clearly fine if only taking a few mins. Same with mornings.

MereDintofPandiculation · 06/08/2024 11:35

Hmmwhaty · 05/08/2024 21:31

@AttachmentFTW i worry in a two parent household this wouldn’t happen though? And it makes me very stressed and worried he’s not getting what he needs

Yes, it would happen in a two parent household. Don’t beat yourself up about this

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