MIL filming kids naked?

[Oringel]

MIL has a somewhat annoying habit of filming my toddlers rather than interacting with them.
However last week they were playing in the garden naked. They were comfortable that way and shaded.
MIL filmed them when they were playing.
I wish I'd said something at the time really. Now I feel really uncomfortable - I do have some pics on my phone of them in the bath etc and so does DH but we have control over that.
Obviously MILs intentions aren't nefarious but I don't really want those videos being shown around or shared.

I know she likes to film them as she wants to watch the videos on the days she doesn't see them ( even if I feel she could make the most out of the days she does see them) and this was innocent, but am I being unreasonable in being uncomfortable?

I’d tell her that you’re uncomfortable with anyone having images of your children naked, no matter how innocent they are and ask her to delete them.

Tell her under no circumstances is she to film your children naked. She might be innocent but if those videos get shared in some way, if her phone got hacked, God forbid who would be viewing those images.

I find this really difficult because I don’t understand why anyone would take a picture of their child naked. It just seems wrong - not in a perverse way, more their vulnerability if that makes sense. Anyway regarding your MIL you really just do need to speak up.

Agree with above, of course there's no negative intent behind it if you trust her but ultimately noone should be filming your kids naked and you don't want your kids to think it's ok for others to film them naked. I'd remind her that devices can be lost/stolen/ hacked and she's no control over where those videos could end up.

You really need to say something to her at the time, do you mind not filming when they are naked. You could of course text her and say you didn’t say anything at the time but have thought about it since and would like to ask her not to film or take photos when the children are naked

I think its ok to just tell her it's risky on her phone in case as someone says, it gets hacked. You don't need to go into a big explanation as to why you are uncomfortable. (Is it even legal??) If she wants to use some sort of instamatic camera and take a few that might be OK. Personally i don't get upset if people see little kids running around naked, it is natural and innocent but I can understand why it is an outright no for some parents.

I think it's ok to tell your MIL that you don't want her to film or photograph the children playing while they're naked and ask her to delete it from her phone. You don't have to give lengthy explanations, it's quite obvious why it's not a good idea!

I’d explain why we don’t do this anymore. She probably raised her own children in the days when nobody thought anything of children being undressed. She may not realise how much more caution is needed now with the internet.

You know she isn't doing it for nefarious reasons so don't worry about it. Just ask her not to share or post those pictures online and move on with your life.

I’ve never taken a picture like that or a video. I wouldn’t like it. Remember a good few years ago, before smartphones, a newsreader (or someone) was reported by a photo development shop for pics of her kids (it was innocent of course) but I’ve never forgotten that… Now, it’s even more dangerous with access to everything online (privacy settings don’t matter, once it’s there, they can get it). I think there’s no need.

i personally in this day and age would never let my children run about their own garden naked purely because you simply do not know who is watching, but thats a personal preference.

you say your MIL likes to video the kids, so its only natural that she would do the same with them running around the garden. i'm sure she wouldn't dream of posting them on social media but a gentle 'reminder' to her that the videos are not for sharing.