Just that really, she isn't the easiest person to deal with. She has her favourites, and makes it very known. If I say anything she gets very defensive.
She claims carers allowance for my daughter, as she is disabled. She takes her to school and picks her up as I work - she is only there for a few hours a day and goes 2 days a week. She usually drops her back to me straight after and goes out and drives around with her 'friends'
I WFH and do most of the childcare around working. Before anyone jumps on me. My work are aware and are fine with this, they encourage this, and encourage us to bring our kids to the office during the holidays.
Since the holidays my mum has helped with my daughter once. I know I sound entitled but she gets paid money to help with her and she does the bare minimum. I'm sure it isn't over 35 hours - I haven't calculated it recently.
She has all the time in the world for my brother's children, and has them stay for the whole 6 weeks while his wife and himself are NOT working. She will watch me struggle but will give them all the help in the world - even tho the kids are old enough to stay alone (one in year 11 and one in first year of 6th form) Even though my child has additional needs, they are very well behaved and such a joy to be around.
Also, since she has had my brother's children all she does is buy them McDonald's with the carers money she gets.
It's not just this, if she needs anything like passport renew, online shopping - she comes to me and expects me to do it for her. I'm honestly at my wits end with her, there is no talking to her. All she says is she tries her best for everyone.
Should I go NC as I am doing most of the childcare myself and make her give up the carers allowance? I just don't even want to speak to her anymore, but feel some sort of guilt as she is my mum. I am grateful for the help I do get but she clearly does not care about us like she does my brother and his children.