To not go because I’m overweight?

[greatestmemory]

I just had a lovely day in London seeing old friends, but it was hot and I really struggled, walking around and feeling so uncomfortable.

I’m doing the same thing this weekend (different friends) but it’s an overnight stay. So I’ll be carrying around a heavy bag, doing loads of activities and walking - and it’s suppose to be hot.

The overnight stay is at a friends, she has a one bedroom flat and so I assume me and the other two will be sleeping in the living room. The issue is that I snore and it’s so embarrassing and I’m dreading it.

I am trying to lose weight and I’m annoyed and angry with myself for letting myself go and using food as a comfort. Aibu to cancel? Everyone would still go ahead with it so it’s not flaking to the point is ruins someone’s weekend.

Do what makes you comfortable.

Could you afford to get a basic hotel room? No need to go into detail, could just say you’re very grateful for the offer to host you overnight but due to a medical thing you’re going to sort yourself out. If they are your friends they should be respectful and understanding.

Can you just go for the day so you aren’t canceling altogether ? Friends are important

But otherwise you have one life - live it for you not for others so if you don’t want to go then don’t

First poster nails it - get a hotel room. Say its 'medical'. Don't explain.

Will you have fun with your friends - ie laugh a lot, chat a lot, share your life stories and come away feeling invigorated and full up with love and shared memories? Then go. Life is short.
And if you need a hotel room, go for it. Bring a really light weight bag, you don't need much for one night, and go and enjoy yourself.

And plan for a warm day, so comfortable trainers with socks, nice loose trousers, etc. Or wafty dress. Hat, sunglasses, portable fan. You deserve a nice day out with other women who care about you.

Go for the day, It will eliminate the heavy bag and snoring issue, you'll still see your friends

Take a light bag, you just need clean knickers and a toothbrush

Yep!! Not sure why you'd need a heavy bag when all you need is

Phone + charger
New pants
Deodorant
Toothbrush & toothpaste
New socks

Otrivine Nasal Spray (or anything similar) has been great for preventing snoring when I go away with friends.
Go and enjoy yourself

I think the hotel room is a GREAT idea. That way you can meet up and have the nice social bits, and then you know you have a bolt hole if you feel too hot or want to snore to your hearts content. Best of both worlds.

Also wanted to say that we can't lose the weight overnight, we just have to chip away. I put on a lot of weight due to various medical issues and dodged an extended family gathering (which TBF, I wasn't thrilled about going to anyway, due to the expected behaviour) Once the medical issues were fixed the weight came off and I would probably go if there was another one, but I was so glad that I protected myself from that situation at the time. So its a good idea to do what you feel comfortable with. But these are friends and they've invited you and clearly want to include you, so in your situation I would go, with the hotel option.

Hotel room and comfy shoes. There's no way I'd kip on someone's living room floor with another person and I don't have thos kind of difficulties. Or just go for the day as been suggested.

You'll feel bad for missing out for reasons you're already beating yourself over. There's always a way around something.

Please don't wait until you lose weight to live your life and enjoy yourself.

Just go and enjoy yourself and book a hotel room

This!

Seeing friends is important. No need to put your life on hold.

Think solutions that will make the day easier - a basic hotel room, or if that’s not affordable, can you pack as light as possible so your stuff fits in a small backpack, or borrow a small wheely case? Or maybe budget for taking a couple of Ubers so you don’t have to navigate the underground with luggage?

Aw I feel this, I’ve been in similar situations before. City breaks with the girls and all the walking/standing around really takes it out of me. It makes you feel a bit rubbish when no one else seems to be struggling and you are. Especially in this heat- it’s hard work!
I like the idea others have had of you getting a hotel room, if that makes you feel more comfortable re the snoring.
I definitely think you should still go- hopefully the laughs and good times you will have on the day will outweigh any discomfort. Have a lovely time :)

I recently did a weekend in London (staying over one night). Booked a hotel and went there early the first day to drop my big bag off so I didn’t have to carry it round with me. On the second day I left my big bag at the hotel all day and collected it before getting a train home. Only had to carry a small handbag around with me during the days. And I could snore as much as I liked.
Your friends will be sad if you don’t go - book a cheap hotel and leave your stuff there.

@greatestmemory don't cancel. I think you'll regret it and avoiding things we actually might enjoy ends up making us feel shit and making our world smaller.

I do think you should make it as comfortable for you to go as possible though.

If you can afford it, book a hotel and pay for early check in or drop your bag so you don't have to lug it around London.
Tell your friends you snore or sleep badly with others and it's not personal.
Or make a joke out of wanting your own bed. Be as honest as you want to me depending on how close you are.

You could meet them for breakfast.

Wear light comfy trainers.
Get one of those USB fans.
Wear a light cotton dress or loose trousers.

Your weight is a red herring OP. You have an agenda ahead of you that you think will be tiring and uncomfortable, so you need to decide if the enjoyment you'll get will be worth it, and go or not go dependent on the conclusion. By bringing your weight into it you are framing it as something you should tolerate because its your own fault, and as the youngsters say "it's not that deep"! If the snoring is the main issue could you experiment with an anti snoring gadget beforehand? Or could you book a hotel instead?

Get a neck fan or portable fan, take a battery so they can last all day.

Freeze a couple of bottles of water and hold against wrists / body / drink as needed.

Definitely book a room too, it'll stop you worrying about the others.

But do go, seeing friends is really good for you.