Bringing a new partner to a wedding my ex is at?

[Lotslikejellytots]

I'm going to be a bridesmaid at my best friend's wedding. My ex will be there. We are on good terms and are part of the same friendship group but we only split 6 mk ths ago.
The bride has asked if my new BF would like to come. It's still early days with him but going well. I'm not sure whether to bring him, out of respect for my ex? As me and my new BF started seeing each other not long after I split with my ex.

Would it be unreasonable to bring him?

Attending the evening do is probably easiest as he won't be sat alone during the day when you are busy with bridesmaid duties.
If you are on good terms with ex it would be best to let him know in advance too so it's not a surprise

Don't take him. You have been with him a very short time.

It's simple tell new boyfriend he's been invited to the wedding if he would like to go.
Tell him your ex will be there. As he's within the same social circle. Make him aware as you're a bridesmaid would he be happy to mingle when he can't be by your side.

Give him the option to accept or decline, or even accept to be an evening guest only. So that all the formal stuff is over and you are free to spend the evening with him.
It's about giving him the options if he wants to or not. Be open and honest.

I think have have current bf along for the evening do and let the ex know he'll be there. The ex can then decide what he does. Be as respectful of the ex as possible obviously. It might be one of those things that will be painful for the ex, but it might inadvertently help the healing process if they know you've def moved on too.

Boyfriend has expressed he would like to go to evening. He sounds sensible. Whole day would be challenging if you have bridesmaid duties and your friend group includes your ex. Evening, you can relax and stick with him and it’s only for a few hours. Easy to avoid him and your ex having to socialise while everyone adjusts to the new dynamic.

I’d agree to him going to the evening. Honestly, if I had been invited to a wedding with a new bf and I told him I wanted to attend the evening and he said “yeah nah I don’t want to upset my ex” I’d be breaking up with him on the spot. Prioritising an ex over me would be a massive red flag and make me concerned for all future friendship group events.

Echoing others, maybe ask your new partner if they would like to come.

It seems like you and the ex are on good terms, so I doubt he would think you are bringing the new partner there, out of malice. If your new partner wants to join you, I know I would. Maybe as you get along well with your ex, give them a heads up.

Wow just wow

I’m clearly the odd one out here but you broke up with very long term fiancé 6 months ago & you’re in the same friendship group. I’d think it really odd that you’d bring a new BF into this so soon & actually quite disrespectful of his feelings & the relationship. If I was the ex, I’d be gutted to be honest, no matter how well they’ve parted.

Who ended the relationship?

Are there feelings there from either of you?

It's too much for a wedding. You'll be super busy and it's going to be a bit weird with your ex being there, even if everyone is really civil. I've been in a similar situation before. In time it's fine but the first meeting is always a bit strange.

I'd arrange a different day for your BF to meet your friends.

You wont be with him as you'll be doing bridesmaid things. Its a little unfair on him.

I would ask ex if he objected and also new boyfriend

This. I think if you ended the relationship then it'd be considerate to not bring your new bf personally.

He'd only be going to the evening do, not many bridesmaid duties in the evening.

I'd take him along if he wants to go and I wouldn't be consulting the ex. Life goes on

Ask your boyfriend if he would like to come with you. Explain your ex will be there, and you will have bridesmaid duties to fulfill, so you won't be able to be with him the entire time. Once he has all the information, he can make the decision himself. Tell him that you are happy for him to attend as your +1 but you'll equally understand if he'd rather not come. The ball is then in his court!

Comsidering your role, you won't be spending much time with him on the day so he will be hovering alone with people he doesn't know, but that all have friendships with each other. I think your friend was just being polite by inviting him too.

They need guest counts ahead of time. With a relatively brief relationship, you can’t even be sure that you will still be dating by the time the wedding happens. That is one of the reasons new relationships often aren’t included on guest lists.

I would just attend solo and have him meet your friends on a less high pressured day.

Obvioudly you and I are not reading the same post here. What??

I think just to the evening do is a great compromise. He’s happy to go & he’ll get a chance to meet everyone.