Friends comment on new house

[Sallie76]

Am I overthinking this? Had a kind of house warming party today with a few friends. When I was speaking to my other friend about the house she was kind of watching me speak and side eyeing. They went for a look round. I said 'have you had a look upstairs then'. She said 'yeah, its alright'. in a bit of a flat voice. I wasn't expecting high praise but I felt like she was dissing my house in a way

I would be overthinking about it as well. Doesn't seem like she has good vibes or is happy for you

It's your house
You love it and you choose it
Your never going to please everyone

You don't buy or decorate a house for your friend's approval do you ???

Do they own their own house?
Could this be a little bit of jealously?

That was unnecessary of her. Is she usually an undermining sort of person? And could it be envy? Does she have her own place?

JEALOUS! She's JEALOUS!

I feel like you want us to say the ‘obvious’?

Only you know if she has reason to be jealous.

She is renting atm. She definitely shows how she is feeling by her facial expressions, I could just tell she was being a bit funny but wasn't sure if I was overthinking the 'its alright' comment

I think it is jealousy @Sallie76 - forget it. I bought a little house in an area I knew a friend of mine liked and she just said fine but what about those blocks at the back - it is a retirement home - 2 stories , not huge and absolutely fine - I just think she wanted something to burst my bubble. Well she didn't and nor should yours be.

Congratulations on your house 💐

who knows, could be jealousy, so many green monsters out there feeling all bitter or could just be that it isnt her type of house at all and wanted to be not so judgy/negative. either way i wouldn't have taken it nicely unless it was said in a really upbeat way

Did you decorate the upstairs? Is it particularly striking? If it was decorated by the previous owners and / or it’s just an inoffensive colour palate then I wouldn’t overthink it: it’s not a reflection on your personal wonderful style.

Anyway, it could have been worse: I once cheerfully told an acquaintance at a housewarming how awful the colours and carpets were and that I bet she couldn’t wait to start ripping the old things out and redecorating. She already had!

Some very sad people begrudge anything they themselves haven't got (Sad B@#_tards) It's a really horrible trait which they will never grow out of, I'd ditch them. They will never be happy for you in getting married, having kids, kids doing well at school. She's toxic and won't change. It's good old fashioned Jealousy. Probably the worst human trait.

Envy...

I've got a pal who always has something a little rude to say about wherever I live. We've had 'spam valley' (little country town) and 'typical suburbia' (funny thing is, the latter is urban, extremely so).

I think it's competitiveness, as opposed to outright envy. She wouldn't even want to live here. Don't get it, nobody's candle burns brighter by blowing out someone else's.

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Your friend (if she still is your friend) is jealous, she should be pleased for you, she should have your back and want you to succeed - I wouldn't lose a wink of sleep if i never heard from her again !

Could be envy.

Were you overtly trying to show off your new house? that might rub people up the wrong way.

No one likes a show off

I moved into my beautiful new home and people were so rude about it.

Real friends place crown upon their friends heads - not knock them off ! Bin her off!

I had a friend for years who did stuff like this. I felt sorry for her but eventually just didn't have the bandwidth for rising above her jealous digs. She was never happy for me. I always was for her even when my life was throwing serious curve balls my direction.

I remember her coming to visit me in my new house. I loved it. She turned up very late which was fine - I explained she was still welcome but we wouldn't be able to do what I'd planned. She then told me not to go to loads of trouble preparing food. I said I'm not preparing lunch, we had planned to go out to a food festival but you will be arriving too late and baby will be napping. I'll order food in instead.

When she arrived DH sent her upstairs where I was feeding the baby. We hung out chatting and catching up for about a half hour when it occurred to me she hadn't even commented on the house. I smiled inwardly realising this was pretty typical as was the arriving hours late then implying I should be cooking.

We walked down the stairs and she looked around "one thing is, it's very lived in" I've no idea what she meant so asked her if she liked it. "You have to live somewhere I guess".

It was really sad because honestly she wasn't at all happy with her setup at the time and I knew that and really felt for her. But after all the challenges I'd been through I wanted to be able to enjoy the happy times.