Name changed to stay anon.
I have come to the conclusion that perhaps I can be happy in a marriage with a man that drives me nuts. I'm not that old, I'm also not that interested in being with any other bloke that will no doubt drive me nuts.
After 4 kids, sex is not regular- but I don't really care right now. Date nights are impossible too due to kids ages and no help. Lives are quite separate in terms of friends etc but we do a lot of family stuff at the weekend.
But the crux of it is- my husband is a great dad
He can be a caring partner. Does nice things for me occasionally. Doesn't guilt me over the annoying things I might do eg) spending too much money, not doing housework that I said I'd do.... But he is also, hugely, self-centred and immature.
If we go out to a party/ pub or it's my birthday for instance (very rare right now) I won't see him for dust- he will be propping up the bar doing shots with the "lads". I used to find this abandoning but now I have started to give less shits. He goes to the gym most nights. He has very little responsibility for the mental load. He can't stop talking about himself.
This is a serious question- I have stability, access to money if I want it, holidays, a nice house.
Seems to me that living seperate(ish) lives could be a solution? Anyone else have a similar relationship and feel happy?