To ask do I say something or stay quiet?

[ElTortilla]

There's a man who has started getting on my bus each morning and each morning he plays videos or music loud on his phone. He got ear buds out the other day and it went quiet for all of ten minutes but then he took them out and we could all hear his phone again.

The noise goes on for an hour and ten minutes for the whole of my commute and I'm mightily fed up as it's from 7am and I'm wanting a bit of peace and quiet at that time.

I usually don't hesitate in saying something to noisy, anti social people but as he's avoided my hard stare and my tutting so far I don't think he'll be that bothered if I say anything to him tbh.

I'd probably ask the bus driver to have a word, but I have anxiety and don't like confrontation.

Oh the bus drivers won't say anything. They just want to do their jobs without any bother.

He is very antisocial.

But - I'd be self defensive rather than trying to get him to stop (he won't!). This is what noise cancelling earphones are for.

I wouldn't bother saying anything. The time would have been when he took the ear buds out. You could have dressed it up in a "are they uncomfortable" concerned way.

I think if you approached him in a non confrontational way, and just say 'would you mind putting your earbuds in?' you know he owns them. Do it warmly with a smile. If he chooses to ignore them you've done your best.
It might draw attention to him for others who are also unhappy, so hopefully he'd be shamed into compliance.

It's bad manners for him to make such a racket, but it would also be rude of you to try to control the racket he's making. It's day time in a public place - you have to accept others' noise. Wear ear defenders or noise cancelling headphones if you want quiet in public places.

I don't agree with this. It's basic manners, I don't want to hear the music he has chosen to listen to. Why is it rude to ask him to put his ear buds back in?

Not entirely the point but can you catch a bus at a later or earlier time?

I would just buy some noise cancelling headphones.
Public transport is full of entitled idiots,who do as they please

I would move closer and sing along (badly - humming and drumming is enough without the lyrics) to ruin his vibe but I am an acknowledged arsehole. If he asks what do you think you’re doing just say oh I thought you wanted everyone to hear and join in.

Ideally, everyone on the bus could start playing something on their own phones, so that he can’t hear his music over the combined noise. Once he puts earbuds in, you all turn your devices off. If he starts his music up again, you all turn yours on again, too. He won’t be able to hear his music unless he does the decent thing and puts his bloody earbuds in!

WTAF? It’s rude to ask someone to stop being antisocial?

Sing your song over his. Mmmm

What a load of bollocks, it should be the bell end making the noise that should be wearing headphones, not the OP or other passengers

I would definitely say something. That’s just anti social

Oh yes, or go and sit next to him and start showing him a load of holiday photos. If he complains then say "I thought we were sharing things"

I don't agree with this. It's basic manners, I don't want to hear the music he has chosen to listen to. Why is it rude to ask him to put his ear buds back in?

I agree.

I don't like confrontation either, but sometimes we just have to step up.

Just ask him in a polite way. some people are oblivious how they come across to others They are egocentric.