My DH struggles to cope when things don’t go to plan or something unexpected/annoying happens and I’m bearing the brunt of it. It’s exhausting.
we have 2 DS (3&5) who are very lively children. If something happens like a child has drawn on the wall or jumped on the bed and broken it - it’s my fault. I get “why would you let them do that”.
they know they aren’t allowed to do these things… they’ve done it when the opportunity arises I have t said “yes darling draw all over the wall”.
I have tried to explain that I still find it an inconvenience and annoying. I’d also rather it hadn’t happened and I didn’t have something else to sort out, but that’s family life imo.
he doesn’t see it that way - I haven’t supervised them properly or I’ve let them run riot etc…
I genuinely do t know what more I can do.
I don’t want to go full helicopter- I’d never get anything done and they need to learn independence. And they already get A LOT of attention from us. They behave beautifully in public and are generally good at listening to us. I don’t just abandon them and I explain “I’m going to trust you to play in the living room nicely while I cook tea” etc. but kids are kids and explore and do stupid stuff on occasion.